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On my own. Alone?

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  Aug-6 1:07 am

Hey all!

So I'm very new at this whole forum posting business, but here goes nothing right?

So, I'm 20, and my FOB and I were together since I was 15.  We've broke up here and there, and gone through a LOT. I even moved to a different state with him on his request, only to get sent home 2 months later. Once we broke up, we continued (For some idiotic reason) To sleep together. With promises of getting back together, and I love you's still said.  And now, a year and a half later, still broken up, but now I'm pregnant. Only 5 weeks, so not very far, but I just found out last night. I told him today, and I don't know how to gage his reaction. He hasn't said much. Doesn't seem happy or excited or anything. I understand the fear factor, but I feel like there should be some sort of emotion. He's just like a blank canvas. Completely emotionless. I don't know if I should give him time to deal with the shock, or what. I just know I CAN do this with or without him, I just wish he'd tell me what the hell is going on in his head. If I'm to do this alone, I want to know so I can prepare for what that means.

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Hi there hon, You are very early in your pregnancy. My suggestion is to let him be. It will take him some time to wrap his head around the situation. Nothing has to be set in stone right now. A lot can change in the next 9 months, trust me.
And I would tell him that you will give him some time to process everything, but you won't give him forever.
In the mean time, just prepare that you will be doing it alone. Start getting everything you will need for the baby and ask your friends and family for support.
And keep us posted! Good luck.
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