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BP High; No More DBF; Losing My Mind
I am 35 weeks 4 days today. My blood pressure has been borderline high the past couple of weeks, so I've been told to watch it to make sure it doesn't go up. Last night, after my baby shower, DBF started acting a complete jerk and this morning sent me a text saying he never wanted to talk to me again and to leave him alone. It is highly unlikely that he is the FOB, but there is still a chance, but he has been my life for the last 11yrs. We have had a rocky relationship with being off and on a lot, mostly when he gets in a bad mood and "needs space", but never are apart more than a couple of days to a month at the most. Ever since last night, I've been bawling my eyes out, and this morning when I got his text, it just made me even more upset, because I had thought he would get over being mad. My blood pressure has been high all morning, but I'm afraid to call my doctor about it. I have my regular appointment on Thursday, so I hope it's down by then, but if it's not, I can't afford to be put on bedrest. I already got a 20% pay cut at work this week and won't be able to afford my bills as it is with that, but if I get put on bedrest, that means no money. Maternity leave is going to be unpaid too, but I've saved up a little bit of money for that, although the pay cut will prevent me from saving enough. Not to mention I still have so much work and cleaning to do at my house before the baby comes, with no help to do it. DBF was going to help, but obviously if he never wants to talk to me again, that won't happen. What doesn't make any sense about the way he is acting, Friday he went over to my house while I was at work and cut my grass and cleared out a good bit of my backyard and was going to help me on Sunday on the inside of my house (until he flipped out). I don't understand how someone can love you one most of the time, and then all of a sudden hate your guts. Apparently I'm an embarrassment to him and he's ashamed for anyone to think that he's with me and for people to assume it's his baby with us not being married. I know if he's going to act like that, I should just realize he's a jerk and move on, but I love him more than anything and he has been my life ever since I was 18. I am losing my mind. I was dealing alright with the money issue before the "breakup" issue came up this morning. I have always seemed to be able to deal with anything if I had him and his support, but anytime he acts a jerk, everything else falls apart.
I guess I mostly just needed to vent some about this, or hear some encouraging words from someone. I was scared to death of having this baby before, but now I'm terrified even more.