I am 22 years old and 16 weeks pregnant. heres the story:
I have been going through a rough patch for the past couple of years. I have struggled with the disease of addiction for about 5 years. In may, I was having a difficult time living in my parents home. My mom is also an alcoholic and had relapsed after 15 years of sobriety. I met the fob through a mutual friend. He knew the situation let me stay in his home. He is ten years older than me and recently went through a tough divorce. During his marriage, he raised his wifes child (she had her son with another man who was not present in the boys life) and the wife no longer lets him see his son. I told myself from the start, I would not get emotionally or sexually involved with this man. Of course it happened. At the time I was drinking daily. We had a good time together and thats all it was supposed to be. We actually began to fall for eachother. My feelings for him grew, but for some reason I had this underlying intuition to keep my guard. In august I became pregnant. I immediately stopped drinking, went in to an outpatient program and began going to meetings. We decided I would move in there permanetly and give it a shot. However, I started noticing some red flags that were around before but ignored them. I knew he smoked pot, however there were other signs of hard drug use. Ive asked him and he swears he doesnt.. I have no way of knowing except for my gut feeling. After thinking everything through and how fast it all happened, I decided to move back to my moms. She is also now in recovery and we have a great relationship. I didnt want to call things off with him, I just wanted some time to get my head together and start preparing for our baby.
Lets just say he doesnt like the idea of me being at my parents while pregnant with his child. I tried to explain to him my situation and how it was only temporary. We havent known eachother that long, i told him lets use this time before the baby is born to figure out if were reallly meant to be together. He said, if I am not living with him he doesnt want to be with me ever. He told me he got used to me being around, I made him happy again& and we should be doing everything together. He said he feels like I am his ex leaving with his child. He cant eat, sleep and is physically throwing up cause I left. He has said to me I am ruining my childs life and messing up his "family." NOW, I never told him I didnt want him to be apart of my life. After the suspicions of drug use on top of only knowing him for a few months, I was trying to put up some healthy boundaries. I am just trying to make the best decisions for me and my baby. He feels I abandoned him. I think hes totally lost his mind.
He said he wants to take care of me and the baby. But after him acting the way he did, I am hesistant to belive him. Since I am young&single its hard not to give in.
Am I doing the right thing? HELP ME
