Pregnant and Single

I am 22 weeks pregnant with my baby boy. My ex-boyfriend and I had been together almost a year when I found out I was pregnant. We had talked about what we should do if this were to happen, and we both agreed abortion was the right decision. I am still in college just a year away from my bachelor's degree at a great University- too close to throw it all away for a child.

I had never been pregnant before and when I found out I was pregnant I knew I couldn't do it. I made the appointment anyways and my boyfriend was very supportive- offering to be there to hold my hand, saying he knew how hard it was for me. The next couple weeks were the worst of my life I felt lower than I ever had before and seriously contemplated suicide, I didn't think I could just forget. I canceled the apt just a couple days before I was to get the procedure and have never felt better about a decision in my life. I knew my boyfriend would be upset- might leave me but I knew this was right for me. I was right he left, and moved away, and changed his phone number. I haven't talked to him since.

I have slowly let everyone in my life know I am expecting. It wasn't something I was ashamed about but coming from a very catholic family I wasn't about to shout it out on a roof top. I recently told my cousin who is 19 years old right now and she said that I must be a saint to choose the way I did- and be doing what I am doing (working full time, school full time, and single). I told her I am not- that she would do it too. Then her response threw me off... she said she couldn't she got pregnant a few months before me and aborted.

Every time I feel my baby boy kick is a miracle. When I see him in an ultrasound or hear his heartbeat I feel so amazing inside. I can't imagine having killed this innocent baby boy. I am pro choice I just can't comprehend abortion after being pregnant. The love I feel for him is enormous. I love him so much I would do anything to make him happy. I have given my life and plans to make sure he will be supported when he is here. and people ask"How can you do this alone?" and I tell them, I'm not alone. I feel deeper feelings than I have ever felt before and I am in the best company of my life. This isn't the end of the world just a beginning of a new life that was unexpected. But life is what happens when your busy making other plans, right?

<3 Sunishine&Jayden

Hang in there and you are right you will be fine..  I was in the same boat as you 2 years ago, I was with a guy whom I was friends with for years.  We had a FWB relationship to start, but my feelings started growing about 6 months into it.  I tried to break it off a few times but he kept coming back, so I though he must care about me.  A year and a half later I became pregnant at the ripe old age of 38, talk about a shock to the system.  I already had a 11yr old and he had a 10yr from a previous marriage.

I knew he didn't love me even though I did him and he begged me to get an abortion.   I didn't know what I wanted and was scared to do it alone again.  I didn't want to have another child with an absent dad, so I made an appointment for an abortion.  I felt the same feelings as you, I was very depressed and cried constantly, with no support from him.   He would still come around, but we never discussed me being pregnant.   He didn't even offer to go with me to the clinic.   I received a phone call at work 3 days before I was supposed to have the abortion, it was the clinic telling me I had to reschedule for another time.  I was broke down sobbing, knowing then and there that was my sign, that I could not go through with it.   When I told the EX, of course he flipped, but I didn't care it was not his body going through all of the changes.

I moved away and told him that he doesn't have to be involved if he didn't want to.  He ended up being a great support throughout the pregnancy and gave me false hope that he cared.   Today my beautiful baby boy is 19months and I could not imagine my life without him.  He is such a joy and I feel blessed to have him and think back that I almost threw him away because I was scared.   The EX is involved in his life a little bit, but has moved on and is with another woman.   I got the best part by having my son and know I am in a better place without the EX and all of the drama that came with him.

So take good care of yourself and keep your chin up!  You CAN and will do this and once that baby is born, you will see that it is all worth it!  Take care

Thank you for telling me your success!! When this first happened I felt so alone in the path I took. I am so glad to hear that I am not alone and you are still happy with your decision.

No matter how strong I sound, or convince myself I am, it is still very frightening. I am glad that your ex is there to meet his son and be a small part of his life, I can only hope the same of mine. We still don't talk, I don't even know if he knows its a boy.

Much love to you and your family of boys :) may we raise them to be the better man.