Iam almost 6 weeks pregnant and have 2 children by my x-husband.. ive been dating this guy for alittle over a year now and he got me pregnant, it was unplanned.. he wants me to get an abortion but i dont believe in it.. my bf is very abusive and is also bi,polar and drinks everyday.. The other night i wasnt feeling well and he wanted to go out to a bar but i didnt want to so we got into a fight about it and he started saying alot of hurtfull things to me so i told him that i was going home, and then he grabbed me and pushed me down, telling me that im not going nowhere.. so i tried to leave anyway and he grabbed me by my hair making me fall on the steps. then he got on top of me and tried to sufficate me so i dug him on his chest and pulled his hair.. trying to yell for him to please stop cause i couldnt breath.. then he let go, and i sat in the bathroom next to the opened window trying to think how i can climb out without him hearing me.. i got out but he did hear me and chased me to my car but i got inside in time and locked my doors and left for home.. i havent went back yet.. but he did call and left two messages saying he was really sorry and that he wants me to come over and talk. but i never did.. i dont know what to do and im feeling hurt and confused, now iam stuck with his unborn child.. whos going to want me now and how am i going to do this all alone??? please help, i need advice..
Girl all I can say is GET OUT now!!!!!!!! You have a baby inside of you and 2 other babies to think about. It will only get worst to the point of REALLY hurting and causing damage possibly even more to you and your unborn baby. I know its easier said then done...I was in an abusive relationship for 2 years...(he is not the father of my unborn baby thank god)...and I just got to the point where I would rather be single and alone then miserable, hurt, and depressed 24/7. Its no way to go through life, and its not fair to put your children through that, and have a "man" like that in their lives...please get help if you have to, get a restraining order, GET AWAY!!!!! I'm doing it alone, most of the women on this site are doing this alone, there is ways and resources...don't put you and your babies through this. Best of luck...and be strong!
Thank u for taking the time out to write me.. Im just really scared and feel so alone.. He had called me lastnight and was saying how sorry he was and that he wants me to come over 2day so we can talk.. a part of me wants to go talk to him but part of me is scared to.. I was going to tell him that i dont want him anymore unless he stops his drinking and gets back on his meds for bi,polar.. idk what should i do? I dont want to be alone and i keep thinking what man is going to want to date a pregnant woman or a woman with 2 kids and one on the way? i feel like im never going to find the right guy for me and my kids.. i just want me and my kids to be happy and for my kids to have a father, but a good one ya know...
hello.... i have been involved in the same kind of relationship with my ex boyfriend who is the father of my unborn child. i broke up with him well left him about a month and a half ago. and i truly believe it is for the best especially if i went to be safe and have a healthy pregnancy. he abused me mentally, emotionally, and physically for awhile before i realized that it was abuse not love. yes sometimes i get lonely and think about him. but you know what know i have a peace of mind and some self respect for myself. it will take time and trust me you will never forget about him but you will learn to move forward. just take one day at a time. thats what I am doing. i mean the only thing left between us is the child. and thats his decision if he wants to be part of the child's life if not thats his lost. good luck
Your story sounds a lot like a friend of mine, she met a good guy, who she thought was cool, liked the same interests etc.. Then verbal abuse started, then the physical stuff began. Sad to say but she was 7 months pregnant with his child, he beat her up so bad she miscarried, and she ended up in the hospital herself, with a broken nose, smashed in face, two teeth missing etc... GIRL it only gets worse, you need to get out now before he starts hitting your kids. And before he makes you stop hanging out with your friends, if he hasn't already. If a man is going to beat up a woman that is carrying his child, thats a discrace he should be locked up, get a restraining order and stay away from him.
