Well, here I am again.
I'm 31 and recently separated from my husband. I have an 8 year old (from a prior relationship) and a 20 month old with my husband. We've been married 4 years. He adopted my older daughter. Then I discovered last December that he had been lying to me about some major things (no affairs, but major lies anyway). Once the trust was gone, there wasn't much left to salvage, but I tried anyway. But then he kept lying. About little things and big things both - it's like he just can't stop doing it. That's a deal-breaker for me. I can't live with someone I don't trust.
So I made him move out in May. He is truly desperate to get me back, and has been trying ever since. (Hasn't stopped lying though, I might add - it's compulsive.) But I just keep pulling further back. He is good with the kids and takes them when he's off work, and I am fortunate to not have any major issues or battles with him (knock on wood).
But it is really starting to get on my nerves that he is still trying so hard to be in my life, and acts like we're still together and I have responsibility to answer to him and keep him involved and such. I don't know how to get him to let go, but he's indicated he never will. I just don't feel connected to him anymore and I don't see that changing.
I'm still angry that he took away the life I was expecting to have. I've done the single mom thing before and didn't think I end up back there again. It all feels kind of unreal and I feel like I'm floating aimlessly with no direction.
Anyway, that's my story. I hope to be able to stick around for a while.
Deborah
