So...I'm thinking about changing my son's last name to my own. He is named after his father. He is a Jr. My son's father and I had a disagreement up until the signing of the birth certificate. The name change is not because I disagreed with his dad or because we are no longer together. I feel that his dad is not a dad. He does not come around. He comes around every few months. Does not contribute to buying him things he needs. He was ordered to pay $80 a week in child support and did not and has not payed anything yet. wait....i take that back he payed $37. This was ordered last year in august. He says he's such a good dad just because he calls his son over the phone a few times a month. I am not trying to keep him from his father. When he asks to see him, we meet somewhere and he see's him. My son does not like to spend the night with him, he has in the past and he cried wanting to come home so we don't do that. My son will be starting school next year and it would be nice to have the same last name. As well, his dad has been in and out of jail. I do not want having the same last name to come up to haunt my son. With my son's father's history, I am not surprised if he would use my son's name to purchase things which is why I am going to do a credit report on my son to see if the things I have been hearing from his mother are true. I just want to change the last name. true enough, he wont be a JR but he will have the same first and middle name. What are you guys thoughts on this? Has anyone or is anyone going through the same thing? I just need some advice.
my story is a lil different from yours.. i changed my daughters last name 3 days after we came home. her father was in and out of my life since day one from the moment i found out i was pregnant. he would go weeks w/o asking how the pregnancy was goin, never went to an appt, and flaked on me so many times. i desperately wanted my daughter to have a family that each and everytime i would take him back ( stupid me). after we left the hospiatl he promised to come see her and he never did, did call and ask what shes doin, i would send him pictures of her via pic message he wouldn't respond. afetr being ditched during my preganacy, ok ill deal with it, but to do that to my daughter... not gonna happen, so i changed her name she now has my last name, i didnt want her to grow up wondering why she has the name of someone who doesnt even acknowledge her. for a school purposes, doctors appts... etc. the same last name would be easier to deal with. idk how each state is, but in cali you need the fathers permission to change the last name... i lied and said that i made a mistake on the birth certificate, i said that due to the medication i did not fill it out right so the original was recinded. but the fob was made aware of these changes and he has somewhat of an understanding of why it was done.
hey. i'm also looking into doing the same thing. i live in NJ and for me to change his name there's a fee of about $200 and a lot of paper work. i've been slacking on getting to the office to hand everything in bc i don't want to see or hear ANYTHING for my sons father. he is a POS and its sad to say but i want my son to have nothing to do w/ him at this point. its a very hard situation to be in but i feel the same way u do. he has no right to deserve to have a son named after him. let me know if u go through w/ it and how it goes. feel better.
its refreshing to hear that someone is thinking about the same things that I am and, for the same reasons. My son's father is a pos too. I really want him to just one day leave us alone and never call us again because he is a promise man. He makes promises and says things that he never follows through with. My son is getting older now and I told him, you can't keep saying things because he is getting older and he is really starting to understand what your saying. my son wanted a bike for his birthday and surprisingly he did get it. I told him I was shocked and he said "well, my friend and i split the cost" what kind of parent does that. He didnt have to say anything. He got the bike he got the bike. what a loser you know. you went half on a $50 bike? you dont even pay child support so you should have enough to get it by yourself. sorry I'm rambling in frustration but I will let you know how it goes because I really plan on going through with it. Thanks for your response.
