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FOB is at it again!!??!!

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  Sep-26 3:41 am

Despite my feelings about how I feel about my son's father I let him spend a couple hours alone with his dad. I cried and cried about it. Something just didn't feel right about him. He had a car, a charger to be exact, when he was just homeless just a few months ago. ??. Well, I get a knock on my door a few days later from people looking for him. I had sheriff cars parked outside my house. He still uses my address for his nonsense. From what I understand the charger he is driving is a rental. He had my son in a car that he did not return and was not paying for. People are looking for him. I feel like a bad mother because I should have followed my instincts and not let him go. My son did have a good time but knowing what I know now I wouldn't have let him go. Why would he even want to put his son in that kind of situation? It's dangerous and even if it's not about the car you have something going on because I am getting all these people come to my house and I do not know them or what they are talking about. I can't believe that even though we don't live together and are not together he is still giving me hell. Its not safe whatever he's doing i'm sure. How do I let him know that this has to stop. He needs to stop using my address. He has been calling but I have not answered due to my phone line going dead after a bad storm. I don't even want to talk to him because I don't want to get involved with whatever it i she is doing. ugh...I really wish he would get what he deserves. He gets away with not paying child support. Does things but always gets a slap on the wrist. I do not want my son involved with his mess and I am definietly looking into the name change asap. My son is a JR. and if his dad is doing things to mess up my son's credit that will be the icing on the cake. *sigh* why can't he just leave us alone.
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Sorry your going through this craziness and you're right it's not safe for your son.

Have you thought about going to the law and see what you can legally do about this?

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yes, I have been to the authorities. It seems as if no one wants to help me. He was ordered to pay child support $80. Yet to see a dime of that. That was august 2008. I also had a TPO against him. He acted like he was a goody two shoes and if he did do something, I knew it was him but, I couldnt prove it and he knew it so, I couldn't have it extended. I havent talked to him since that day I let him see my son for a few hours by himself. He has been calling but no answer. He wants to know who's looking for him. I'm just done with this psycho and his family. What will it take for him to leave me alone. What has to happen, besides the absolute worse? I just want to live my life in peace and not have to deal with all this drama.
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Your ex must be related to my ex.

It is against the law to give out a false address, you should contact the police in regards to that. They can provide you with what to do in case other parties show up looking for your X.

You should also pull your son's credit report and check it. You can also put a watch on it, if needed.

If you have not already you need to lay down the rules with him. Let him know you are done and that you are not his friend, alibi or enemy. Let him know he needs to stop using your address and you have reported him to the authorities. If you can, stop your son's visits with him. And let him know if he wants to see DS then to take you to court. File the contempt charges against him for not paying CS and make sure you have all of your custody papers in order.

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