Single Moms

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!  :) 

You can definitly make it through this :) I agree with the other girls, get in touch with a county worker and they should be able to help you out and give you advice with everything from housing, to food stamps, and WIC.  :)  Even those things will make your life so much easier.  If you feel like you are not getting much emotional support it has also been nice going and talking to the workers about where to find help, because they usually seem to really care about your situation and understand.

I am a newly single mom as well of two children, a three year old and almost two year old.  One of the hardest things I ever did was decide to leave the father of my babies, but it has been such a better life for us already.  I know exactly what you mean when you say you cry yourself to sleep every night.  It is not fair.  But do what you have the power to do to make things easier.  Since I have moved on I have been so much happier and so have the kids.  The baby does not deserve to have a deadbeat dad around all the time.  It can be dangerous for you and the baby. 

Also we have only been split up for about a year now, and i am so so so broke, but I would not go back to the situation I was in before for anything.  He went out alot while I stayed home with the kids too.  We were together over five years, and it did not get better, it just kept getting worse and worse.  If you can get out now, I think you will save yourself alot of pain in the future.  Dont forget you are not his mom, you are not responsable for saving him or taking care of him, if you try to save him it will not help him, just put you at a disadvantage. 

So keep your chin up :)  you are going to be a very strong mommy, and your baby is going to be so lucky to have a mom that has gone through all this for him or her.  :)  It is challenging being a single mom, but it is also very rewarding, and things will get better.  :)  Hug to you!!!  You are not alone!!  And you can do this!!!  So proud of you!!  You and your baby will make a beautiful happy family :)

Thank you so much for your support. Since I posted that, I've had a couple horrible days and many more really good days. As if things weren't bad enough, FOB decided it would be cool to text me a picture of him and another girl in bed together, with the caption, "here's looking at you" Wow. I thought I never stop crying.

Letting go was the hardest part, seeing my baby at the first ultrasound washed so much pain away. For a moment as I watch him/her kick and punch and stretch and listened to that beating heart I felt something I've never experienced, more powerful then I ever thought any love could be. It was pure love and gratitude. I forgave Daddy and realized that he was the one missing out, not me. And honestly, oh well. I've been blessed and in that room and I realized, I got this. I have my baby, who is appearing really healthy so far and I've been reaching out. I got myself into therapy, got myself support from the government. The anger and loneliness is drifting away and being consumed by love, and focusing on getting my baby a mom (me) who has dealt with her own issues and put them to rest, so this gift from God that I have growing in me has a good solid mother.

It's amazing how becoming a mother changes us, when I thought I had no love left to give I realized that I haven't even began to understand how much love I really have. Reading the support from others is so encouraging...thank you so much for sharing your story with me.