So here it goes - I've been a single mom for 5 1/2 almost 6 years to my wonderful son. His dad made the choice not to step up to the plate and be a father. Now suddenly out of the blue exactly one month ago today contacts me saying that he wants to be a father. He's never paid a dime in child support (which I never requested thru the courts) and has never met his son. He's married now and I guess is convienent to have a child in his life. What I think is just completely and totally unfair about all of this is what it is going to do to my son. I have an appointment set up for him to see a counselor starting tomorrow but it just makes me so mad. I've done this alone since the day I found out that I was pregnant without his help and now suddenly he wants to be a dad. He's not working right now - only his wife is so there is excuse #1 as to why he can't pay child support. He can't drive anywhere because he owes the state that he lived in thousands of dollars and they took his license so there is excuse #2 as to why he can only make visits every so often. He is taking care of his sick mother so there is excuse #3 as to why he won't be able to do much of anything for right now. Then there is the excuse #4 as to why he hasn't been around - I never told him... That is just simply a bold face lie because I pushed the pregnancy test in his face and he said he didn't care. He didn't want anything to do with the baby. So now after talking with my attorney I've offered him montly visitations that are limited supervised and for him to pay child support. I have sole physical and legal custody of my son. This just truly sucks because we were doing fine without him and now he thinks its going to be just so much fun. I guess so since he missed the colic, reflux, ear infections, staying up all night with a crying baby, teething, potty training, bottles and diapers. He's trying to make me look like the bad guy in all of this when he is the one whos the dead beat dad! Has anyone else been thru the same kind of situation? If so I could really use some advice as to how you got thru it. Not to mention that the dad is a convicted felon and is just a horrible person. He's been using his childhood as an excuse for years now. It was a horrible childhood but at some point as an adult don't we have to stop making excuses and start owing up to our own mistakes, our wrong decisions/choices and take responsibility for our own actions?
