Stillborn

Lilya will be laid to rest on October 24th, i wondered if anyone has any poems or blessings i might be able to use at the service. I have searched some, but my heart is heavy today...i needed a break, thought i might find some help here. Any ideas or insight would be grateful!!

Thank you so much

Here are some that we used for Ryann's memorial, I hope you find some you like..... some we just used quotes from

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My Butterfly

I long to feel the soft weight of you
to welcome you home, with kisses
on silky round cheeks.

Instead my arms ache with the
weight of your absence,
the empty places that were meant for you
to grow into.

My love for you will last an eternity
My hopes and dreams now carried
on the fragile wings of each butterfly passing
compelling me to pause,
to savor each moment,

each flutter in my heart-
your wings.

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Even the smallest of feet
Have the power to leave
Everlasting footprints
upon this world

An angel opened the book of life
and wrote down my baby's birth.
Then she whispered as she closed the book
"too beautiful for earth".
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 This one is my favorite

We thought of you with love today but that is nothing new
We thought about you yesterday
and days before that too
We think of you in silence we often speak your name
Now all we have are memories
and your picture in a frame
Your memory is our keepsake with which we'll never part
God has you in his keeping
we have you in our heart.

I am so sorry for your loss - I love Lilya's name....we lost our son, Luke, on Sept 27, 2008 and I can say that having survived the past year, the pain does get more manageable and the world does show its colors again, even if our pain is never far from the surface. Here are a couple of ideas for Lilya's service - best wishes, Vickie

DEAR PARENTS (something I found online)
I did not die young
I lived my span of life,
Within your body
And within your love.

There are many
Who have lived long lives
And have not been loved as me.

If you would honor me
Then speak my name
And number me among your family.

If you would honor me.
Then strive to live in love
For in that love, I live.

Never ever doubt
That we will meet again.

Until that happy day,
I will grow with God
And wait for you.

We also read Waterbugs and Dragonflies by D Stickney (I think that's the author) - we wanted something that would help Luke's brother and cousins get involved and have some kind of understanding - the story helps explain death to children.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart aches with every new member of this board. Here are a few songs that have really touched my heart since losing Landon:

Glory Baby by Watermark - I did not find this song until after Landon's funeral, but I wish I had heard it before to play at the funeral.

Praise You in this Storm by Casting Crowns - We did have this song sung at Landon's funeral. This song was written for a mother after she watched her daughter struggle and then eventually loose her battle with cancer.

Held by Natalie Grant - This song was written for her friends whose son died of SIDS at 2 months.

Come Lift Up Your Sorrow by Michael Card - This song is so touching for anyone facing sorrow and pain. He actually dedicated this song to my husband, my daughter, Landon, my family and I the day that Landon died. We were supposed to be helping with one of his concerts that day, but tragically during church that morning we realized that Landon was no longer moving and then shortly after it was confirmed that he had passed away. Our world just crashed at that moment. Michael Card's own mother and sister experienced full term stillbirths and so he was very compassionate about our loss.

I realize that you didn't ask for songs, but songs are so meaningful for me. I hope you find the perfect way to honor your angel. Hugs!

Renee

My deacon shared this with me while we were still at the hospital waiting to deliver. We then had him read it at the cemetery too. If you are not religious perhaps you could just use the main section in quotes"

from Mother Angelica of EWTN:

My Lord, the baby is dead!

Why, my Lord—dare I ask why? She will not hear the whisper of the wind or see the beauty of her parents’ face—she will not see the beauty of Your creation or the flame of a sunrise. Why, my Lord?

“Why, My child—do you ask ‘why’? Well, I will tell you why.

You see, the child lives. Instead of the wind she hears the sound of angels singing before My throne. Instead of the beauty that passes she sees everlasting Beauty—she sees My face. She was created and lived a short time so the image of her parents imprinted on her face may stand before Me as their personal intercessor. She knows secrets of heaven unknown to those on earth. She laughs with a special joy that only the innocent possess. My ways are not the ways of man. I create for My Kingdom and each creature fills a place in that Kingdom that could not be filled by another. She was created for My joy and her parents’ merits. She has never seen pain or sin. She has never felt hunger or pain. I breathed a soul into a seed, made it grow and called it forth.”

I am humbled before you, my Lord, for questioning Your wisdom, goodness, and love. I speak as a fool—forgive me. I acknowledge Your sovereign rights over life and death. I thank You for the life that began for so short a time to enjoy so long an Eternity.
-- Mother M. Angelica