Termination Due to Poor Prenatal Tests

Mary Ellen,

Thanks for your post and kind thoughts. I terminated the pregnancy by D&E this past Friday, 8/12. It was a very emotional day but things went pretty well as for the procedure. We were shocked and angry when the anesthesiologist asked (once he realized what procedure I was having done)"What,you don't want any more children?" I was already emotional to begin with and I answered "Yes, we do but this baby is sick". He then apologized but it was a little too late at that point. We thought this was totally unprofessional and we are currently trying to find out his name as we may possibly file a complaint so that he doesn't say this to other parents that have had to make this heartbreaking choice. It's hard to believe tomorrow will be a week already. I've had good and bad days, I cry when I need to and I'm just trying to cope the best I can. I'm going back to work on Monday so that should keep my mind occupied as I know I will be very busy. I know we will get through this and I hope it will get easier with time. Thanks again for your thoughts and prayers.

Lisa

Lisa,

Thanks for letting me know how you're doing.  It so hard the first while after losing the baby. 

I'm sorry you had an anesethiologist that assumed that the baby was healthy.  I would of emotionally lost it at that point.   This is not something anyone wants to do.  But, I'm sure he learned his lesson from what you said to him.  Very few people know the right things to say under these circumstances.

I hope everything goes ok when you return to work.  

Wishing you healing and peace,

Mary Ellen