Termination Due to Poor Prenatal Tests

Thanks for asking, Mary Ellen. I've been out of town for 3 weeks, and mostly doing OK. We met some friends and their 2yo DS for vacation, and the first night they told us that they were 9 wks pg, and they hadn't even been trying. I was really upset that night. Part of it was feeling bad I couldn't be happier for them. Then I went to a work conference, where I hadn't seen anyone in a year and no one knew I'd ever been pg, and it was so strange to act as if Boo had never existed (Not that I wanted to, but these were work colleagues I don't know very well, so it never seemed right to say, "Oh, well, I was pg but lost the baby at 6 months. How have you been?"). That was hard, too. Oh -- and being around people who DID know, and never said a word. Like my brother. First time I'd seen him since before I was pg, and he never acknowledged it. I know that's just him, but I didn't realize how much I need people to just acknowledge that Boo was real. But apart from those few times, I've been doing well. Boo's due date is coming up soon, so we'll see how that goes, but I've been back to usual lately. It means a lot that you wanted to check in with me. Thanks.

-Erin

Erin,

Thanks for checking in.  All the things you talked about are so real with most of us.  There's people that never knew you were pregnant and it's kind of awkward telling them now and then there's people that pretend it never happened.  Take heart in knowing that these people just don't know what to do or say in this situation.  I am so glad that you're doing ok and making it through the rough spots.   Due dates are a really hard day to deal with.  I'll be sending you lots of hugs.

Mary Ellen