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Disney's UP

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  Jun-8 3:01 am

Okay, I had a long week. So my husband wanted to take me to the movies, I never leave my son with anyone so of course we went to see a children's movie.  UP is showing in 3D and I thought it would be so much fun to see a 3D movie. NOT!!!!!!!! The beginning of the movie was about a couple who had just gotten married. There was a scene where they were staring at the clouds and one of the clouds looked like a baby. The next scene showed the woman at a doctors office receiving bad news and after that it showed her being really depressed. The husband wanted to cheer her up so he came up with a plan to put adventure in their lives since they could not have kids. UP was way to depressing to be a movie for kids. 

The weird thing about the day I went to see the movie is that my mind was really on my loss. I was wondering if my cycle will ever come, should I buy an HPT to see if got pregnant from my slip up (I did and it was negative) , will I be able to conceive after this. I have 30 days to spend with my husband and we will not see each other again until mid Dec. I really wish AF would come because I going to wait one menstrual cycle before I try. I only have one month in 2009. A couple of months ago we were so happy because our baby was due in Dec.

Does anyone have any suggestions to deal with the grief of pregnancy loss, this is my second loss.  I had a m/c before DS and now this.

 

 

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  Jun-8 2:11 pm

(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry that you are having to go through all of this.  We do have a Pregnancy Loss board, the other ladies there are looking for others in the same position as you to find support and healing. 
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  Jun-9 8:42 pm

Oh no, I'm so sorry the movie wasn't a good choice :-(  {{{HUGS}}} Loss is difficult, no matter what the circumstances.  It's frustrating...being robbed of a precious little one, wanting to be pg again very soon, not knowing when you'll even be able to try.  I always hate to mess with mother nature, but I wonder if because of your narrow time frame, you could speak with your doctor and get provera to jumpstart your AF so you'll have some idea of when you can ttc.  Also, you may be pressuring yourself...a lot...with that narrow window of time.  Most women don't get pg the first cycle they ttc.  Would freezing some of his sperm and doing a few IUI cycles be an option, so you could continue to ttc while he is gone?  That way you wouldn't have those emotional ups and downs of rushing to ttc, and then possibly not conceiving and having those disappointing months to wait until December.

Purple Yellow Flower 

Homeschooling mom to Kaitlyn (11) and Kristopher (7)
~^~ EP 3/95 and M/C 4/01 ~^~
My baby sister died from Group B Strep.
Your baby doesn't have to! http://www.thejessecause.org

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  Jun-10 1:56 pm

I would try IUI with frozen sperm if I were staying in Hawaii but I am moving and I don't really know what OB doctor I will be assigned to in the city that I am moving to. I seriously doubt that I will get pregnant before I move, but DH says anything can happen. I am on the fence about what to do because even if I do fall pregnant  I could suffer another loss and he will not be there to support me. If it was not for him I don't know what I would have done after my 2 losses. After the first loss he wanted to get me pregnant soon, I was pregnant within 5 months.  I think I will eventually get pregnant.
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  Jun-11 12:40 pm

That's a good point, that if you were to lose the pregnancy your dh wouldn't be there with you.  I'm so used to having family around that I hadn't thought of it that way but it's definitely something to consider.  As for freezing sperm, you could have it shipped to wherever you were going to settle.  Still probably more hassle and expense than it's worth, in the long-term, but it was just a thought.

Purple Yellow Flower 

Homeschooling mom to Kaitlyn (11) and Kristopher (7)
~^~ EP 3/95 and M/C 4/01 ~^~
My baby sister died from Group B Strep.
Your baby doesn't have to! http://www.thejessecause.org

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CL Ectopic Loss and Fertility Charting
Co-cl Homeschooling

Learn more about us at our Home-N-Vegie Blog
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