Unassisted Childbirth

Hi, Ladies!  I have spent YEARS on this board on and off, and now I'm ON!  I'm 15 weeks pregnant with my last (and eighth) child.  I'm soooo thrilled.  This will be my fifth home birth and fourth unassisted birth.  THE EXCITING PART ...  2 1/2 to 3 months before this baby is born, I will be "assisting" in the unassisted birth of my grandchild!!!  Yeah ... I'm getting old. 

This baby is an absolute miracle blessing!  We learned I was pregnant literally 14 hours before Tim's vasectomy.  He and I fell in love in 1985 when I was 17.  Some big misunderstanding split us up, and fate finally brought us back together.  When we first spoke, we knew that there was still a strong love between us, even though we'd split up 23 years earlier.  After much debating on his part, he decided we were too old to have a child.  (He's 46;  I'm 42.)  Fortunately, I'm very fertile and we got pregnant quickly.  We are sooooo thrilled. 

This is his first child, and he's nervous as heck.  He said he would be okay with an unassisted birth if I would agree to at least have a midwife or some medical professional in the house "just in case."  I don't like the idea, but he's a very mainstream "pregnancy is a dangerous illness" person, so I'm so grateful that he will at least compromise as much as he is. 

My due date is April 27.  I felt my first quickening already.  There is no way I'd have recognized it if I hadn't been pregnant so many times before, but it was definite.  I'm only 15 weeks along.  I can't wait 'til the baby gets big enough for Tim to feel him/her.

I have no idea what I'm going to have, which is strange for me.  The last time I felt this way, I turned out to have an incomplete pregnancy:  placenta, but no baby.  I hate to say it, but that was a blessing because the dad was a monster.  I was literally INSANE for about four months from his frightening emotional abuse.  I couldn't even recognize myself.  Anyway, I'm guessing that it might be a boy since I sensed all six of my last kids were girls and they were!  I hope it is a boy for Tim's sake, but he doesn't care at all.  He just thinks it's a boy.  My daughter is sure hers is a girl.  What exciting times! 

Anyway, I'm glad to be back.  I'll check in regularly!

HUGS!

DebiQ

Woohoo! Welcome back and congrats! How exciting to be expecting at the same time as your daughter. :o) It is very nice to have you here. I am also glad to hear that you are in a good relationship. Are you going for an ultrasound to find out what baby is or are we gonna have to wait?

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Thanks for the congrats!  I will try to have an ultrasound even though I'm against them.  I'm doing it, so Tim can have that thrill.  I'm NOT going to find out the sex of the baby.  There is absolutely NO reason to know.  I can't name the baby definitively until it's born.  I can't predict what size clothes, s/he will wear at birth and at one-month old.   I will not redecorate my bedroom to accomodate a sex-specific color, and the baby will be in my room.  AND ... I hate knowing what is inside a present right before I open it.  I think it's a boy because I have no sense if it's a boy or girl, and I usually sense the girls.  Whatever it is ... YAY!!!!!!!!!!

HUGS!

Debi

An ultrasound was very important to my hubby with our first. He said it helped him connect with the baby. I'm not generally a fan of them (ultrasounds), but hey, they do serve a purpose. A mom's intuition can be pretty powerful! Not mine, I was convinced baby #3 was a boy and she sure wasn't. For many other moms, usually. ;o)

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