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This is a bit off-topic, but I thought that you ladies would be good people to vent to...

My daughter's wonderful daycare provider is 38 weeks pregnant, and just started her maternity leave. We're friends on Facebook, so I've been getting regular updates on her progress. She's planning for a natural birth, but is understandably tired of being pregnant, and has been hoping that she'll go early. She's going to the same providers that I saw during my DD's pregnancy (the ones who missed my DD's breech). They're a midwife/OB practice, but trend towards the "medwife" philosophy. Our local hospital also has the highest C/S rate in the state of MA.

Earlier this week, the midwives thought that my friend was measuring big, so ordered an ultrasound. The baby is "measuring" at 8 lbs, 6 oz. I talked to her and reminded her that ultrasound weight estimates are notoriously inaccurate. She does agree with me on this, since she has a few friends who had ultrasounds that went awry.

Well, now the midwives are telling her that her amniotic fluids are low, and that she needs to come in today for some testing. She's nervous, and of course *all* of her Facebook friends are telling her, "Horray! You'll probably get induced tomorrow and will have a Halloween baby!".

Can I just say, "ARRRRGH!"?!?

I did tell her that it'd be a good idea for her to have a lot of water and juice before her NST and ultrasound at 1:00 today... but it's frustrating, since I'm worrying that she's going to start the cascading intervention process...

I'm also reminding myself that my feelings are not just about her. Another good friend was induced recently and I had the same instinct that something would go wrong. She ended up with an emergency c/s. It's all frustrating me and bringing up my own countertransferrence. I know that I've given her all of the information that I can, and that pushing her wouldn't be fair to her-- she does have a right to make her own decisions. But I'm worried.

Thanks for reading my vent, and if you can send a positive thought her way, it'd be much appreciated...

I hope she listens to your experience.  I understand your frustration.  You want her to know what you know but you want her to be able to make her own decisions.  I'm the same way - I try not to push but I also don't want people to have to go through what I went through. 

Please let us know how your friend is doing. 

Rose

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Thanks, all, for your support and understanding!

Thankfully, my friend's NST went well, and there is no talk of induction. Phew!

I'm realizing that I wasn't frustrated over her needing to go in for the NST... it was all of the Facebook comments that set me over the edge. I've done all of this research, and know people who had inductions gone awry, or who had 37-38 week babies with complications, that having 9 people all say, "horray! Get an induction with your 38 week baby!" makes me feel nutty. Sigh.

Ah, well. Back to life...

Thanks again!