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  Oct-22 9:31 am

What do you think of Permissive Parenting? A good thing? A bad thing? Can easily become too permissive?

This article says it's a GOOD thing! :)

In Defense of Permissive Parenting: Why Talking Back May Lead to Smarter Kids
Tony Dokoupil

Inside a convenience store, Xenia is battling her 4-year-old son, Paulino, over buying a soft drink. She wants him to try a small size, he wants a larger one. "That one does not work," she says, referring to the rack of big cups. "These [smaller] ones do."

Xenia eventually won the battle over beverages, but she may have lost the parenting war, according to a pair of new studies, highlighting how small differences in communication style can have a large impact on kids. And in many cases, it's minority families like this one (Xenia and Paulino are Mexican-American) that suffer the most.

For more, read here: http://blog.newsweek.com/blogs/thehumancondition/archive/2009/10/21/in-defense-of-permissive-parenting-why-talking-back-may-lead-to-smarter-kids.aspx

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  Oct-22 2:34 pm

I don't know how I feel about it. I know brenna has about one chance to make a really great argument for why something should be her way. after that it turns into whining and things never go her way once it hits that point. usually I have a reasonable explanation why it's gotta be my way, so I win? but I admit there are times I just say because I say so.




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so wait-- i am supposed to let her negotiate and argue with me when i tell her something? not saying i think bossing her around all day long sounds like a great idea either, bt in the example given with the child wanting a bigger soda: no. i am the mama:)
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LOL If I gave my son the chance to negotiate, he'd rule the world. I don't think so. :)

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