BIO MOM BASHING

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yvonnebiomom37

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Oct-31 12:12 am

I just started searching for BM support, after seeing all the SM sites! I was in shock to say the least! I thought I was alone in dealing with a crazy SM and BD. I couldn't believe that other SM's were so much like her. I am a SM too, but never thought of myself as an equal parent to the BM, of my Skids. She acts like she's the BM and I'm interfering with her child. I get bashed for every decision I try to make for my DD. I couldn't believe all the support pages telling SM they should feel like they have equal or even more rights (in some cases) to the child. How can so many women feel it is okay to try to take over on someone elses child? Daycare providers, nannys, grandparents, teachers, foster parents.... these people love the kids & spend just as much time helping raise them. But they don't think that when they do so...it gives them the right to take over or be equal to being mom! I just hope that BD sees the light some day and stops it or dumps her! No matter what SM does though, DD knows who mom is and is hating SM more and more for her actions. It just pains me that DD has to deal with it, and I can't protect her from it. I am so glad that I found BM support!:D

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yvonnebiomom37

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Oct-31 12:43 am

Wow ladies! I posted my view after reading just the first couple of postings. I'm new to the site and still finding my way around. I just now read through all of the postings. I guess my first posting seems out of place now. Well maybe... changing the subject back to why BM's are getting bashed wouldn't be a bad idea anyway? I hope you all don't mind me cutting in?

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Oct-31 1:26 pm

I'm sorry to say that you are not alone in this. But keep up the fight. Don't let her overstep. I fought and ended up with a very disengaged stepmom for my DD. No longer do I have to deal with teachers, coaches, dr.'s thinking that she's the Mom and who am I?! Stand firm, it works. Let people around the child know what's happening. Empower the kid to correct people.

Nobody can take the place of Mom. I don't even like the name "Bio-Mom" because is implies that it's some "kind" of a Mom, equivalent to a "step-mom" or something. Mom is Mom, nobody else.

I hope your child's SM backs down.

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yvonnebiomom37

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Nov-1 12:35 pm

Thank you for the good advice. It's nice to hear that there is hope. I will try to stay firm and strong for my DD. I will also start to advice my DD...to do like you said. My DD is afraid of SM, so it's not always easy to do that. But as time goes on and she gets older, maybe things will be easier. Thanks again. It's good to hear that I shouldn't be second guessing myself on what is right, in these situations.