Bio Moms

There is another message board in this community and I accidentaly stumbled across it the other day when I was looking for posts related to H1N1. The post I came across was a stepmom going on and on about how horrible her 5 year old step son is. The post seriously offended me first and foremost as a parent. Then also as an ex step kid and as a Mom to dd who has both a sm and sd. My original reply to that message was pretty harsh (no cussing or anything but alot of sarcasm) as to how she could "help" her situation. I then posted another message to "tone down" my first response. I also went through alot of the other posts on that board and a very good portion of them were about the sk's and what horrible brats they are. These poor kids have had there families torn apart and now they are being tossed between families. And one of those families they are going to can't be very welcoming if the sm hates them. You can't tell me that these women are so good at hiding their emotions/feelings and the step child doesn't realize something. Kids are smart and I am sure they are feeding of of the "hate" stemming from sm. What do they (sm) expect? This has majorly hit a button in me. I feel so bad for these kids whoever they are. I was pretty much disowned by my Dad when I was 12, stepmom didn't like me. She got p'd at me one night and they drove me home (right before Christmas) and that was that. So apparently I've been that "bratty" sk. That still affects me to this day, 20 years later.
So there is my Soapbox...thank you.

My daughter has a SM who appears to dislike her, so I understand.  My daughter is PO'd at her Dad for marrying a "mean lady" too.  And consequently doesnt' want much to do with them.

I'm sorry you've had to deal with that as a child.  My daughter doesn't have a good relationship with her Dad either.

I know, I hate those posts too.  Even though my daughters SM can be a royal pain in the a$$, reading some of those hate posts make me bless my lucky stars that at least she actually cares about my daughter.

I understand being frustrated and needing to vent.  Feeling like your not wanted in your own house would naturally cause some resentment.  But actually hating a child?  I can't understand that or condone that at all.