Bio Moms

I don't know your situation at all, and I respect the fact that you don't want to give details.  I as a mother know how heartwrenching this decision must be for you.  I don't really know what to say because I am torn feeling sad for you, and torn feeling sad for your boy and can't think of a da*n thing to make it all right.

I have a very close friend who, eight years prior to my knowing her, gave up all parental rights to her two daughters because she had a drug problem.  She admits now that she didn't really want children at the time, and wasn't prepared for being a mother.  Her addiction got in the way.  Now, she has contact with the adoptive parents every now and then by way of pictures and updates on her daughter's lives.  It does help.  The hurt hasn't gone away for her, but it's gotten better knowing that her children are loved.

I can't and won't judge you because I don't know you, but you are obviously hurting over this.  The only thing I can really think of to say is that sometimes things happen for a reason?  I know that sounds really trite (even to me) but it often turns out to be true.

Thank you so much M.M Phillipslady for understanding where I am comming from .  I'll be honest the last 4 months have been the hardest , I miss him so badly but @ the same time I too carry arround that motherly guilt ( repeating over & over in my head again " you should have protected him more , " you should have fought harder")    it's incredibly hard waking up every day & not having my little boy there to smile and brighten my day .