Bio Moms

     I am so angry right now!!    I'm sure it's because I should know better than to EVER believe ex- I always give him the benefit of the doubt, hoping he will mean what he says and be honest.  The issue today is he picked the kids up from school early (one hour) just for weekend visitation.  He and I recently discussed not doing this because last time he did this ( he does this ALL the time), one of our sons ended up leaving in the middle of a test. 

     These early pick ups are not due to "special" events, doctor or dentist.  They are just because he wants to.  When we discussed waiting until end of school day for kids he was all "yeah, of course, sure, I can do that, no problem".  I even told him he could pick them up in car rider line at school so he wouldn't have to come by my home.  He was in total agreement.

     Today, he stops by my house so older son could pick up toy before going home with dad.  It was 45 minutes before school lets out!!  I became so angry, I went outside and reminded him we agreed to wait until end of school day to pick boys up due to missing out on school work, tests, etc.  He says, "I asked if anything was going on, I could wait.  The office workers said no, older son was in art, younger son at habit party.  So they didn't miss anything important".  Nothing important to HIM!  Younger son was excited and looking forward to habit party.  Older son probably didn't care less.  However, routine is important.  School is important.  Not to mention he told me he won't be taking younger son to soccer game Saturday.  No real good reason why.  Just won't.  It's all about HIM and I can't stand it anymore!! 

      Thanks for letting me vent.  I just needed an outlet.  I don't know how to deal with him.  

Thanks,

Laura

I am learning a lot about the system lately, being pro se.  I will tell you that he has the right to do this, even without your consent.  You cannot stop him, and the school cannot refuse to release the kids.

The only thing you can do is document, document, document.  Send an e-mail saying, "I understand that you collected DS 1 hour early from school on (date).  I understand that this was unnecessary.  I ask again that you refrain from disrupting our DS's education for anything other than medically necessary appointments.  Thank you."

You will need a PILE of these before you can proceed to court.  Then your options are:  File for sole legal (difficult) or request a CO amendment  (easier).  How the CO amendment reads will depend on how serious and frequent the infractions are.  Remember that anything you ask for will likely apply to you, too.  So, "Child will not be checked out of school early without the written consent of both parents" may make it difficult to schedule medical and dental appointments if he chooses to be a jerk.  A more "one sided" wording may be ordered if it can be proven that his behavior IS seriously disruptive.  "Father will not be allowed to remove child from school at any time without the mother's written permission."  THen the school can enforce this.

Good luck!