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First off I am not suppose to know this YET so please don't mention anything on my FB!

So SIL (15yo)'s boy friend (not dating just close friends) came to me today asking what to do about a friend who wanted to commit suicide. I was thrown for a loop on why he'd be coming to me. Wellllll he slipped and said her name. I want to do something but want to respect privacy issues between them. So I am trying to encourage him to say certain things to discourage her from thinking that way. It's not working she still wants to do it in the next few weeks. At first I thought it was a joke, being 'devils night' and all but I guess it's real. So I am dumbfounded on what to do, I am thinking of taking her to coffee tomorrow to chat like SIL's and see if something comes up. I doubt she'll say anything, but I suppose it's worth a shot. He did say just a few minutes ago she did say OK to counseling for a session (not more I guess). So please pray for her and the family that we can get this open and worked out.

Thanks in advance!

lindsey, i don't have a ton of experience in this area, but i went through some depression and suicidal thoughts when i was a teenager, as well as studying psych in college. i just want to say that i really think you should absolutely forget about the privacy issue. this isn't something to fool around with. if you really know and believe that it's not a joke, and she's serious about this, please don't play around. this is her life you're talking about. which is worse? her committing suicide or her friend being upset with you? think about it that way. if she's serious, she needs help, and she needs it NOW.

i'm not saying that you shouldn't take her to coffee and try to talk to her, but if she's at the point where she wants to do something like this, there's not going to be much you can say to stop her. i just wouldn't want you to not take action, simply because you're afraid to offend someone. it doesn't matter in this situation.

i hope that didn't come across too harshly - i would just hate for this to have a terrible outcome. i'm praying for you and the situation! (((hugs)))

I don't know any specific advice, and I agree with Colleen, and I'll be praying.

Suicide is one of the top 5 killers of teens in America. The outreach that we do for Nightmare exposes those top 5 acts. The research they found was that every 2 minutes someone commits suicide....so don't be hasty. Cutting seems to be the "in" way to torture yourself, so if your around her and she seems covered up that may be a first clue of her hiding.

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