DTT Grads

Hiya,

Since I started my new job in February ivillage is totally blocked at work (not completely, we're just bandwidth restricted so I have to "save" for important work stuff)... anyway, been a while since I posted and such thought I'd share an update.

New job is going mostly good - similar work just a smaller company. It is a heckova lot better than my old company, which was really falling apart. Its nice to be back to "normal" doing work I enjoy. I'm working for an old boss, so it feels familiar. But also nice to have the job transition over with, it was a bit rough.

Grace is 20mo now and fully the toddler. She has quite a vocabulary of words and she is a little chatty cathy these days. She has just started to grasp pretending and so she surprises us with funny things - today she was pretending to be a duck (squating and quacking - ha) because it was raining outside. hehe. We've also started to get a little opinionated, she likes to pick out exactly what to wear and what book to read, and seems like the new favorite word is "self" (for do it myself, of course).

Knowing Grace is an only makes it so sad to see her grow up. For a while I held out a little hope that DH would change his mind and want a second, but it isn't happening so at this point I'm trying to come to grips with having just one. It doesn't help that everyone on the planet is asking these days when we plan our second child. I also get grumbly that when I say Grace will be an only I get comments back like "Don't do that to her". Ouch. 

 I've taken to telling complete strangers practically about our fertility issues in attempts to shut people up. Such a 180 from where I was when we were trying and I told no one not even family. I guess I'm more desensitized to talking about the fertility issues than I used to be. That and when it comes to closing conversation on the subject, it works pretty well. Part of me is a bit annoyed to have to justify our decision for any reason though. (Especially when I'm not the one who doesn't want a second. Grrr.)

I do miss my DTT gals - our board was such a unique and wonderful community

Hope everyone is having a wonderful summer!

Cheers, Paula

 

Thanks for the update Paula!  Grace sounds adorable, that's such a fun age.  I don't blame you for getting annoyed with peoples comments, but I've learned over the years that no matter how you live your life, people still feel the need to comment on it, no matter how many kids you do or don't have. 

Hi Paula!  I hear you on the "only child" comments.  I get them too.  If my circumstances were different, I would want a second child too, but DH definitely only wants one, and the fact that Colton still wakes through the night and I devote so much time to him, there are times when I don't know how I would be able to function with two.  Maybe it's my age ;) 

Grace sounds adorable.  If you're like me, you're trying to document every cute thing!  I have trouble finding time to keep up with it though.  I take millions of pictures, but not nearly enough video. 

I'm glad you like your new job.  How's your DH's business going?  I hope the economy has picked up a little for him.

Stop in again soon!

Amy

Hi Paula!
I can't believe how old Grace is getting. I'm glad to hear that you are liking your new job. It's so nice to hear an update.:)

I hear you on getting the comments about having an "only". Having so much space between Mack and Ethan of course we dealt with those comments for 5 years and it got soooo old. I pretty much tell anyone who asks these days about my fertility issues also, mainly because I don't care and don't want to have to deal with the constant questions about #3. It seems like you birth your baby and people are already busting down the door asking about the next one.

I'm glad you're enjoying Grace's toddlerhood. It's a tough time but also the cutest.I dreaded the potty training and tantrums but the pretend play and discovering new things is so fun. I'm so glad you checked in and who knows? maybe someday your dh will come around like mine finally did. Hey, it only took 5 years.lol *ducking the stones* :)