May 2008 Expecting Club

Yes it does get easier but it takes time. I have a 3 yr old and he has such a routine now that it is hard to deviate. I can pretty much tell you exactly what he will do and when he will do it. He takes naps at a certain time of the day and he goes to bed at a certain time of the day. It is to the point now that he comes and tells us it is bed time.

That said, it will take time. You'll see a routine develop around 3/4 months. Then as soon as you think you've got it down, they'll change it up and say get rid of one nap. It is a never ending cycle of changes until around 9-12 months depending on the child. Once you hit about a year old, the days can be pretty predictable.

As far as getting used to each other, I'm with you there. Grady is 5 1/2 weeks old and I just can't figure him out. On top of that, I am having a hard time dealing with the way I feel about him. I have an obligation to him as a mother to take care of his needs but the emotional love is just not there. At least not the same way as it is with my ODS. My husband said that it will come later but with ODS I had always felt it with him. I guess only time will tell.

It will come! Trust me! And it is a lot more common than you might think. The bonding takes a while sometimes b/c the early days are so stressful and tiring. Just keep playing the part though and it will come. ((((HUGS))))