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I just wanted to get your opinion on a matter...

I have several friend who are expecting their 3 and for some 4th child. Is it customary to have a baby shower each child?

Well.... I was told that I was wrong for giving a friend a shower for her second baby. :( I personally think it's right to celebrate every birth! But, what was suggested to me was maybe give her a little party after the birth so everybody can meet the baby. Of course, if it's been 10 years between babies or she's had all girls and is now expecting a boy or vice versa, you can always change the rules that others seem to set. ;-)

If you want to go ahead with the shower, maybe you could point out that she already has a crib, stroller, appropriate car seat or whatever? Or since it's a bunch of friends, do they have a bunch of friends in common where you could have one party for all of them at the same time? I just keep thinking that if my friends want to buy new clothes for my little one, I'd love to have them clean and ready for the arrival. :)

Let us know!! :)

There are a couple stipulations I've frequently heard of, for showers for subsequent babies to be considered "okay". If there are more than 5-6 years between children (well past the timeframe where you'd keep your baby stuff), then a shower is okay. If baby #1 is a boy and baby #2 is a girl, it's okay.

Another thing to keep in mind for subsequent babies is a "Meet the Baby" party. It's done sometime after the baby is born, generally within the first month. It's pretty much a baby shower, but with the added benefit of knowing with 100% certainty that the baby is a boy or girl. :P

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The official "rule" on Subsequent baby showers is:

More than 5yrs between the kids. (like Amy said)

Baby is a different sex (also Amy ;-) )

OR

the people from the first shower won't be at this shower.

Personally I think all babies deserve a celebration, maybe a mom of 4 won't need some things but a small party and gift is always nice. :-)

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