September 2006 Sunflowers

Hello ladies,

I have been here since the very beginning, although I rarely post.  I have a five year old, son  soon to be six year old.  He is in full day kindergarten and of course my three year old sunflower who is a major handful. My hubby works shift work two weeks day work two weeks night work.  Basically I am a single mother for two weeks out of every month. 

 So here is my question......I really think I want another baby.  My husband is on board but we both worry how it will change the dynamics of our family. 

 I worry mostly financially, we are for the most part comfortable we enjoy being able to give them what we can, our son is in soccer and Karate the little one is in dance class and swimming.  All these things cost money.  I also dont want to take thse things away from them.  (not that I would have to , I just worry)  I think of back to school shopping for three multiple pairs of shoes for three.  So I basically worry financially.  My question is am I being selfish??  What should I do I have been debating this for what seems like forever....

Laura

Mommy to Ryan and Mackenzie

No one can truly answer that question for you except you and DH. If you both want it, go for it. There's never a "right" time and who is really completely "ready" anyway? On the other hand, it sounds like you're being realistic about costs and finances.

I'd do the pro/con chart thingie -- simply make a list of reasons to do it and reasons NOT to do it, and see which is longer.

Good luck! It's YOUR decision -- no one else can really TELL you what you should do.

                  

                    

 

As my DH said to me the money will be there and it truly is there. We wanted three, we wanted to give them things and do things and we have. My girls are in gymnastics and Ryan currently is in preschool, but looking into extra curricular activities for him. You will find that once they get older they can't do as many things and will have to choose which activity they want to do versus having several.

If this is something you want and you both agree, everything else will work out. There are times you struggle but then there are times you don't. If this is something you both truly want then go for it. You have great spacing between your kids so by the time you have the next one your SF will be pretty independant in in preschool.

Can't wait to hear what you decide.