discussion title:
Supervision of visitation (babies)
message #:
8726.144 in response to 8726.14
<<Unless the BD has proven himself worthy of supervised visitation (which off the top of my head I cant think of any reason except for abuse to the mother maybe). I've always felt that while BM has never needed to prove herself as mother, the BD is normally left with the task of proving himself as father. I've never really thought that was fair.
BD and I went our seperate ways when DS was 5 months old. At 6 months, BD was coming to pick him up and keeping him for the entire weekend and taking my pumped breast milk right along with him.
I did not want supervised visits for him, hell I didnt even like him very much back then, so he was fine to take his child and go. I knew DS was safe. He was a craptastic live in boyfriend, but I had no reason to believe he'd be anything other than a good father until he would prove me otherwise and to date, he never has. So no supervised visits for him. >>
I am on the complete opposite side of things as you, Jay...but I have to say that ITA with almost everything you say, I would certainly like to trade you for BM in our lives. I love that you don't confuse *relationship* issues, with *parenting* issues as that is the one thing that aggravates me most a/b *some* BMS, and you are not selfish in the slightest. You TRULY have your child's best interest at heart, and while you may or may not LIKE BD, SM, or any of his LIGF etc...you don't let that affect his ability to parent your SHARED child. Hats off to you, seriously. It's refreshing as all get out.
