Stepmoms / Bio Moms Debate

DH sees his daughter once every week for dinner, and EOW.  On those days, he helps with her with all of her homework.

This past weekend BM needed to keep DSD late on Friday, and for a majority of the day on Saturday for parties.  On Sunday, DH had to drop her off mid-afternoon for his own plans. 

My question is, who is responsible for the homework?  BD 100%, 50%, 0?  WWYD?

(DSD is 9, and needs help doing her homework.  She is very difficult and argumentative about it, so it is never a pleasant occasion for either parent.  BM does homework with her most days out of the month and appreciates a break when she can get it.  But does BD really deserve to spend a majority of his short visitation arguing with a 9yo about homework?)

I think because DH doesn't see child all too often and it sounds to me that BM has the majority of the time, therefore she is the CP it's BM's responsibility to deal with HW. Since it's become such a hassle, I would expect that BM would understand that DH needs to have quality time with DD and not time that if filled with arguing.

BM decided to be the CP, that's what comes with being a CP, the good, the bad and the ugly!

What do you mean by every week for dinner?  Is that one night or ever night?

What do you mean by DSD needing help?  Needing to be reminded?  Hounded?

Who is responsible for homework?  DSD 100%  Doing a childs homework is not doing them a favor.   DH or mom needs to schedule a meeting with the school and/or have child professionally evaulated.

That's parenthood! If it's his weekend and she has homework it gets done on his time.  Parenting time to me, isn't about parent's time with the kid, it's about the kids time with the parent. 

  I think it would benefit the child and mom for his help.   Parent's with more custodial time  deserve a break IMO.  If Dad wanted more time and didn't get it then my view changes a bit.  (if it was Mom same thing).   I would then say hey you wanted it all, you get the majority of that duty but if the kid has to do it on dad's eow then he can take her and help or leave her with mom.