you are here: iVillage Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy & Parenting message boards Stepmoms / Bio Moms Debate  / Stepmoms / Bio Moms Debate  / 
advanced search  |  outline view  |  invite a friend  |  folder view  |  about the boards

Stepmoms / Bio Moms Debate

315223 messages posted to this board • 24 messages posted today
find messages about   
log in
welcome!
 
next discussion >
last visit to this board
Nov-4


messages posted
this board
5251

add to friends
ignore posts
discussion title:
 

Does BD have a right to refuse?

emoticon:
 emoticon
message #:
  9197.1
replies:
  40
from:
  leegirl_jm  Member Icon
date:
  Nov-2 4:30 pm

This is the situation. A relative of BD's makes a generous gift to his DS with BM, the relative only knows his DS with BM and never met his DD with SM. BD feels the gift should be shared between the two children since it was circumstances why the relative never met his DD with SM. BM has accepted the gift and refuses to share it, BM is named as the trustee for her DS.

Is it fair for BD to demand his DD share in the gift?

Lee

Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie!'... till you can find a rock.

send to a friend >   print >   bookmark >   report a violation >
last visit to this board
Nov-24


messages posted
this board
2408

add to friends
ignore posts
discussion title:
 

Does BD have a right to refuse?

emoticon:
 emoticon
message #:
  9197.2 in response to 9197.1
replies:
  40
from:
  meanmommy2009
to:
  leegirl_jm  Member Icon
date:
  Nov-2 4:35 pm

A person can give a gift to whomever they choose. The recipient may either accept or refuse the gift. It is not their place to critique the gift. In other words BD's relative can give money to whomever they choose, they don't need BD's permission.
Meez 3D avatar avatars games
send to a friend >   print >   bookmark >   report a violation >
last visit to this board
Nov-24


messages posted
this board
2690

add to friends
ignore posts
discussion title:
 

Does BD have a right to refuse?

emoticon:
 emoticon
message #:
  9197.3 in response to 9197.1
replies:
  40
from:
  littleladybugj  Member Icon
to:
  leegirl_jm  Member Icon
date:
  Nov-2 4:37 pm

"Is it fair for BD to demand his DD share in the gift?"

No. The relative is free to give the gift to whichever child they wish.

I do think its bad form to give to one and not the other, however, that is the relatives prerogative.

My dad does this kind of thing all the time. He went on holiday earlier this year and bought me an $1300 Louis Vitton bag but didn't buy my brother anything. It's not exactly fair, but its up to him how he spends his money.

Defeat your enemies with success Photobucket
send to a friend >   print >   bookmark >   report a violation >
last visit to this board
Nov-24


messages posted
this board
2527

add to friends
ignore posts
discussion title:
 

Does BD have a right to refuse?

emoticon:
 emoticon
message #:
  9197.4 in response to 9197.1
replies:
  40
from:
  okmrsmommy  Member Icon
to:
  leegirl_jm  Member Icon
date:
  Nov-2 4:38 pm

Nope.  People are allowed to gift to whomever they want.  If they'd wanted to give a gift to the DD they would have done so.  Instead, they chose to give the gift, in its entire amount, to the DS.  This is their choice and BD needs to deal with it.

Meez 3D avatar avatars games

Mom to DD-12 and DS-10

send to a friend >   print >   bookmark >   report a violation >
b8310  Member Icon
last visit to this board
Nov-24


messages posted
this board
1578

add to friends
ignore posts
discussion title:
 

Does BD have a right to refuse?

emoticon:
 emoticon
message #:
  9197.5 in response to 9197.2
replies:
  40
from:
  b8310  Member Icon
to:
  meanmommy2009
date:
  Nov-2 4:38 pm

I agree.  Even though he's never met DD, I'm sure he knows she exists, and, as harsh as it may sound, if he wanted the gift to be shared, he would have gifted some of it to her.
 
britneywert
 
 
 
 
send to a friend >   print >   bookmark >   report a violation >
MESSAGES IN THIS DISCUSSION   1-5 6-10 11-15 ... 26-30 31-35 36-40 read next>
< Jump to Previous Discussion    Jump to Next Discussion >
Change the number of messages
displayed on this page in
Indicate your interest in the discussion
   
Get updates to this discussion
delivered by email