Stepmoms / Bio Moms Debate

This is a true sitch and is about my SIL.

MIL was CP to DH and SIL.  SIL decided on her own to move in with one of her teachers when she was sixteen.  This was against the wishes of both her mother and father. However, since she was sixteen the parents could not do anything.

Now, SIL gets the idea that since she is a minor she still deserves to be supported by her parents and sues her father for CS.  I am not positive whether or not father was paying MIL CS or if SIL was asking for more than he was paying before.  I do know that father was very angry about being sued by his daughter to pay for a living situation he did not agree with nor support. I am not even sure if she won the CS but fast fw 15 years and father is still angry with her and will have nothing to do with her.  He has basically disowned her over this issue.

So,  do you think he has a right to be angry with her?  Should he let bygones be bygones?  Do you think she was in the wrong petitioning the courts for CS from him or was this her "right"?  Would you advise a child to sue their father for CS knowing it may harm the relationship?

What the hell is with parents refusing to ever get over their children's teenage stupidity today?

Fifteen years later it is time to get over being pissy at your kid for having been a butthead at 16. Newsflash: Most people are buttheads at 16. No, she shouldn't have done it and had no reasonable leg to stand on, but FFS, she was a KID!

I might advise a child to sue for support if the parent was a deadbeat (unclear here) and the money was needed. It seems like it would mostly be a non-issue though, because the adult with guardianship would be doing the suing.

Just wondering can an adult(me) sue my Sperm donor(father) for all of the C/S he never paid my mother?  We are talking 17 years worth(if you calculate on paying C/S to age 18)? 

I think he had no just reason to be angry. He was responsible for her care. God knows there had to be some reason she didn't want to live with her parents, and why a teacher would bother to take her in. the fact that he's still pissy about it 15 years later may be some insight on why she wanted out of there. But, at 16, she can't get her own credit card, has limited earning potential, etc, and even if she doesn't want to live with her parents, they still have a moral obligation to make sure she's taken care of.

They should have set the situation up as a legal arrangement from the start (guardianship, emancipation, etc.), but this doesn't sound like a terribly healthy family to begin with, so rationality wasn't likely.

I think she should cut her losses, her "dad" is not much of one.