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Dilemma - try or wait another month?

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Hi Everyone,

I was hoping you could give me some advice on what I should do about my upcoming cycle.  I took this cycle off because I was out of town during O and I needed a break.  Now, I am excited to start back up again.  The problem is that my close friend is getting married July 17th, 2010.  She is a very close friend and I wouldn't miss her wedding for the world.  So, do I wait another month to try?  If I got pg next cycle, my due date would be around 7-20-2010. 

I don't think there is any harm in trying because my chances of getting pg without IVF are pretty low, but it always seems to happen when its the most inconvenient.  The idea of waiting another month is not ideal.  My DH definitely does not want to wait.

What would you do?

Donae

 

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Married Matthew on June 23rd, 2007

Off BC 11/2007 - started "trying" 09/2008

DH's SA (6/11/09) showed 3% morphology

 

Cycle # 10-12: 3 failed Clomid cycles

Cycle # 13: Taking a break

 

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If it were me I would not wait. I am getting married 5/22/10 and we are still trying, if I get pregnant this cycle I would be 8 months pregnant. I figured that we will take it as it comes. The way I llok at it is if this is my chance then I have to take it.

That is my opinion. I am sure your friend would understand and be very happy for you even if can not attend the wedding at all.

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  Oct-7 1:02 pm

I agree with the pp....definitely go for it now!  If you are ready then you need to do it!  I am sure your friend would understand and be very happy that you had to miss her wedding for your new baby! 

And you are right....it will happen because it is bad timing!  LOL! 

Go for it!

 

-- Jaime

Me: 33   DH: 33

Best friends for 17 years, married for 5!!  TTC #1 for 5 years. 

Dx: Initially MFI.  After IVF # 1 I was diagnosed with MTHFR and abnormal clotting factors.

IVF # 1 with ICSI:                  BFN 4-18-2008. 

IVF # 2 with ICSI and AH:     BFN 10-21-2008

Finished my immunology work and have started my new medications.

Attempt at IUI # 1 with injectables cancelled early d/t run away follicle. 

Attempt at IUI # 2 Started Stims 9.9.09!!  BFP on 10-3-09.  Beta #1 @ 13dpiui = 96!  Beta # 2 @ 16dpiui = 391!

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I would try. If you still feel like you need a break eotionally, then that would be a reason not to. But I wouldn't not try in a natural cycle because of inconvenient timing if you got pg, especially if you are already considering IVF. There are also your husband's feelings to consider, you said he doesn't want to wait. If the universe grants you a miracle and you get a natural pg without having to go through IVF, I'm sure you and DH would be happy about it no matter what the timing is. If it doesn't work, you and DH will know you tried, and it will be more evidence to help you decide what the next step should be.

- Jenna, 41, DH 38 TTC since September '06 with MFI. 3 failed unmedicated IUI's with DH sperm, 1 failed IUI with injects with DH sperm, IVF #1 BFN, FET BFP but M/c week 5, IVF#2 BFP m/c week 7, IUI with injects and donor sperm: probable chemical pg. 1 failed unmedicated DS/IUI. Started BCP's 7/30 for IVF #3, ER 9/10, ET 9/15, Beta 9/24 results 9/25. BFP, Twins. Lost 1st twin at 9-10 weeks, lost second twin at 16 weeks 12/17/08. Attempted IUI #4 converted to DS/DH IUI April 09 at my request, BFP and M/c. IVF #4 June 09 BFN. DS-IUI w/injects 7/6/09, BFN. Hysteroscopic myomectomy to remove fibroid 7/29/09.
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Thanks Lori.  I guess I just wanted to hear that I wasn't an awful friend.  I am sure she will understand.  I had a bridesmaid that was 8 1/2 months pregnant at my wedding and she was great.  Though her feet were very swollen by the end of the night.  Make sure to buy comfy shoes for your wedding, just in case :)

Congrats on the upcoming nuptials and hopefully I can congrat you again soon.

Thanks,

Donae

 

TTC #1

DH (33) Me (33)

Married Matthew on June 23rd, 2007

Off BC 11/2007 - started "trying" 09/2008

DH's SA (6/11/09) showed 3% morphology

 

Cycle # 10-12: 3 failed Clomid cycles

Cycle # 13: Taking a break

 

My Ovulation Chart

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