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Oct-8 3:33 pm

Well, we're here, and I have told the dad, the reaction was not good. Reality kind of smacked him in the face and he's not happy. He just keeps saying now he can't have a kid, well I'm in this situation and I told him we would talk about it but he thinks there is nothing to talk about. I don't want to terminate, I want to do this and I don't know how to bring him around. I don't want to dismiss his feelings either, so maybe I'll just try and go it alone. Some help and support would be awesome ladies.

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Oct-9 12:19 pm

Hi-

I'm sorry you're in a difficult situation. I'm not sure if you're married, in a long-term relationship, or casually dating-- either way, there are several other boards you can check out to get support from women in a similar situation.

Take a look at some of these:

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Oct-9 1:59 pm

Thank you for your reply. I am currently living with him, we have been together for over a year. At first it was "I"m ok with it if it happens and I want a child" And now that it has happened it has turned into "I can't have a kid right now, you need to get an abortion" It's like he enjoyed the thought and now that it's a reality he's in shock.

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Oct-11 7:53 pm

Some men need time for adjustment, give him some space and time. On the other hand don't let him change your mind. If you know you want the baby then know that you can do it with or without him! It may not always be easy but imagine the feelings you will have for the rest of your life if you do something you could possibly regret (ie abortion). Reena suggested some great boards and we here on this board are ALWAYS here for support! You can do this and we are here to listen, to talk, to be supportive! You can e-mail me anytime as well! Keep us updated and let us know how everything is going with the dad, your appointments, how you are feeling, etc!

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Oct-12 11:37 am

Well I"m going in today to see how far along I am and I really wanted him to be there for it but he works six days a week from 8 to 8 so that's not really going to happen. After a lot of time to myself this weekend and thinking i"m not sure if I am ready either. I am enjoying being young and being able to take off on weekends whenever we want. I'm just now getting my credit card down low enough that paying it off is in the near future. I'm so torn right now I have no idea what to do, I'm hoping that this appointment will help a lot. He has been a lot more supportive and asking how I am feeling all the time. I will not let him influence my decision but now I don't even know if I can take this on. I see so many of my friends my age with kids and they are so happy, they say it is the best thing that has ever happened to them, but I'm not sure I'm ready for that life style. I want this to be exciting, not stressful. I want to be able to have a home and spoil my kids, not have so sacrifice what they can have because I'm in school and struggling to make ends meat. But at the same time I don't know if I can get an abortion. I have cried a lot over this and he just holds me at night telling me that everything will be ok. It's helping that he is being supportive but now I'm second guessing everything. One minute I'm alright with the fact that I'm not ready and it's not fair for a child to have to be brought up with young parents with no money, but then I'm crying over the idea of getting an abortion. I'll update you guys after my appointment, I hope it helps!

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