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These are the typical toddler bedtime issues - won't stay in bed, cries and wails for 30-45 minutes at the door (pet gate is installed so he stays in the room, but he shakes the gate), wakes up several times a night and we go through the same thing.  The problem is that we've taken to sleeping with him - my husband and I switch nights.  I know, know, know this is terrible and want to get things to where they should be.

Another issue is that he is 21-months-old.  Won't be 2 until January.  I am concerned that the comprehension that a 2-yr-old might have he doesn't have yet.  He is just fine developmentally - talks and can follow basic instructions.  I was hoping to keep him in his crib until at least 2, but at 19-1/2 months he started shimmying over the side of the crib and landed on the floor several times (he is tall for his age and a climber).  So....we moved into the big boy bed.  It is in a different room, but it has all of this toys in there, multiple stuffed animals, a night light and a large bed.  I was going to get a toddler bed, but there was already a futon in that room and he had learned how to go up and down easily, so I folded it down and left it.  The mattress is the nicest one for a futon, so it is very comfortable.

We do the routine - bath, books and bedtime, but he is still going nuts.  Help!

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Hi, Aryn

What if you just ignore the behavior? Let him CIO? DD never gets out of bed so we don't have that issue but I've seen it on The SuperNanny a million times. LOL :) Just put DS back in bed, turn around and walk out of the room. I'm sure the habit will take a couple of days to fix, but with some consistency hopefully he'll be sleeping like a trooper. Also-have you considered taking all of his toys out of his room? DD's room is strictly for sleeping-no toys are allowed in her room (except for her beloved puppy and blankie for sleeping of course). Sounds tough, but the association of toys/playing in the bedroom make it hard for LOs to calm down at night. IT's the same for adults-that's why they say not to watch TV in bed-makes for bad habits and sleeping problems. GL and HTH!!!

 

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We had major bedtime issues. I would have to sleep with him for DS to go to sleep. Finally I said enough is enough, and let him CIO with the gate up. The first night was absolutely awful, 1 1/2hr of screaming/crying at the top of his lungs. The next night about 1 hr, and each night it got less and less.

From time to time DS likes to see how far he can push things, like tonight for example he wants me to go in and read him another story. I've already read him the 2 stories as part of his night time routine, but he wants more and he is very persistent about it!

He knows the rules, he is not to come out (if he does the gate goes up). He quietly plays or looks at book and falls asleep.

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Aw man, I feel for you.  You know what might help, maybe a night light.  Not the kind you just plug in but the baby one that plays music and rotates an image on the wall.  My DH purchased one late and I think my son was over 1y.o. when we started using it. After he gets his story and short back rub, I leave him in the room.  He used to cry for me or daddy but eventually stopped and went to sleep.  Now instead of crying for Mommy he'll say "I love you Mommy" and I usually respond with "I Love you ..." from the other room or as I'm walking out his room and down the stairs. 

I put the night light on a timer , usually 15 mins and he's out with the light.

 

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