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Crazy??

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  ejawinter
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  8/14/2003 1:22 am

Considering adoption.. doesn't sound so crazy, until I tell you that I am nineteen years old. I'm not sure how or when it started, just sometime after my visits to an orphanage in Mexico (a church mission trip). Well, I just feel so deeply for the children there and I see how they live as well as what they have and lack. I think, I don't have much, but I could make life so much better for one little child. Then I come home and spend time with my niece, and that just makes me think about having my own little one to care for. I know that I'm not ready for the pregnancy and such (husband, etc.). However, that's not really what I'm wanting anyway. I'm wanting to change the world for a toddler; to give him a better chance, a loving home. My mom completely supports me, and I guess I was just wanting an outsider's view of the situation.
 
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  8/14/2003 12:32 pm

While I think your heart is in the right place, I am not so sure that you know the full implications of adoption. First, it is a life long commitment - you state that you are not ready for a biological child or a Husband - so adoption is probably not the right option now either. Secondly, there is an extensive homestudy process which may or may not result in recommending you as an adoptive parent. It is difficult enough to successfuly parent in a 2 parent household - my hat goes off to all singles parents everywhere. Additionally - do you have the resources to adopt? It can cost $25,000 or more in fees depending upon where you adopt from and which agency, etc. You have to have proof of insurance, etc.
Now please don't mistake my opinion as a put down to you for being 19. I was engaged at 19 but stayed in college and got married at 21. I am happy to say that 13 yrs. later we are together raising our sons. Many people put us down for wanting to start out young. In retrospect things may have been easier if we were a bit older - but we managed. Just give this all alot of thought - you have so much ahead of you.
 
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  8/15/2003 12:48 pm

What a huge heart you have and your intentions are wonderful, but I have to agree with the first person who posted to you. Think long and hard before you make your decision. Your young and have pleantly of time ahead of you. Good Luck on your soul searching!
 
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  8/15/2003 4:43 pm

I don't think it's crazy at all. I wanted a baby when I was 18 and I made it happen. We weren't married at the time and we have no regrets at all. That was 5 years ago. My cousins were adopted and since I was 3 I've wanted to adopt. Fortunately I found a man who wanted the same thing. So now we are trying to adopt for the first time. At 24, dh is 29, we are still considered young by some I think. We love being parents and want to give our ds a sister. Many countries require the parent to be 18 and you don't even need to be married or attached to anyone. The hard part is getting certified by an agency at a young age in the US.

But I wish you the best of luck. Continue doing some soul searching and some research.

Melissa

 
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