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Does/Did your AT/AP throw tantrums? What were they like?

My little guy is 26 months and his are outrageous...with "rage" being key word there, lol.

I think there are many things that go into it. We adopted him about 6 months ago from Ethiopia. Some of the frustration on his part is probably that he's smart, but can't exactly voice what he's thinking. Also, he was pretty much the golden boy in the orphanage. All of the nannies just fawned over him and gave him anything he wanted, so he's used to getting his way. And, of course, part of it is just being two years old.

I'm hoping it passes soon!

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My DD has tantrums.  For the most part they aren't too bad.  As soon as she started talking (9 mos), I always told her to "use your words."  Working on vocabulary (I taught preschool for 17 years) helped her to express her wants/needs at an earlier age.  She still has a meltdown at least once a day, but I invite her into my lap and I gently say, "What happened?" (when Daddy yells at her).  She is very sensitive and DH is overworked and little sleep.  Usually she will start acting up when she wants his undivided attention.  We dialogue, she & Daddy apologize to each other.  She also throws tantrums when she doesn't want to leave some place (like school or a fun outing).  I give her choices, "You can walk nicely and play when you get home or I can carry you and you can have time out when we get home." Doesn't always work, but I continue to do it b/c she is smart and will eventually figure out her actions affect the consequences.  Basically she chooses how fun life is.  Something my siblings never learned.  All have been in trouble w/ the law.
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  Nov-8 11:38 am

Yup! Miles will be 2 next week and is definitely starting to test the limits. He will hit the table or kick the floor and look at me to see how I'm going to respond. More recently we have been taking away a toy if he throws it and using time-out after one warning. The tantrum usually passes quickly, but he is definitely testing the waters. I am working on expanding his vocabulary with words describing emotions. Since learning "frustrate" he has started to use that more than immediately jumping to hitting the table. Lots of toddler drama at our house right now LOL :)
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  Nov-8 11:59 am

"Frustrated" is definitely a good one to teach! I've been trying to teach Felix that he can simply say "Momma please help me" rather than start whining / crying about something. (Ha - I'm still trying to get my 4 yo to do that too, lol.) So he's started using "help" more now. I'm also trying to teach him that if his older brother or sister do something to him, he can come and ask me for help instead of hitting them or throwing something at their heads. Not that I want a tattle tale, but I guess we'll deal with that part later!
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