ugh!
Welcome to the worldof TEENAGERS!! You can also call it the " YOU AREN'T MY DADDY' years. or the " THEY know it all parents know nothing times"..... also known as "my child lost his/her dang MIND years" or my personal favorite
" I dont know whether to hug her or pitch her off a cliff portion of her life" ( p.s . shes 18 and we are still in this phase)
the only "good" thing is that because tthere is a step parent in the house, it sort of gives you a 'break' from all the teenage anger because most everything is blamed on the step dad. even tho step dad is the one whos been there, paid the bills, cared and loved for said teenager, HE gets all the crap.
dont worry. you'll get PLENTY of eye rollage, head bobbing, screaming, 'i hate you... you are ruining my LIFE... "stuff too.
Oh and it gets worse with age.
every family finds what HELPS I wont say WORKS. because not much is magincal with teenagers or stepfamilies. ITS ALL TOUGH!! for me, I parented my teens and dh parented his. I played 'good parent' to his and he to mine. if somone was going to say yes to something we'd send the kid to the step parent to ask it. If the answer was going to be no... ( seee how we worked ???evil chuckle) I had my dh teaach my dd how to drive...... forced bonding. I'll let you know in 10 years if it worked. she still doesnt have her liscence. ( Little miss fails-a-lot wasnt allowed to) oh yeah THAT was myyyyy fault go figgure
so now that Ive made you want to get on prozac, my other suggestion is to GO TO FAMILY COUNSELING!! HUGE help. kids will pitch a fit. but if you can find the right counselor that they end up LIKING, then it is a BIG BIG help.
gooood luuuuuck!!
