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  Oct-1 12:17 pm

I totally understand how you feel. I am not sure I have what it takes to invest  any more  years in this one though.  The more I catch and know of his internet porn looking the more disgusted I get with him. He is not who/what I was led to believe he is.  

The more I "see" the less I am interested in this man I married. The porn watching is just one  issue to deal with thing.  Probably the biggest.  I don't even say anything about it anymore- After 3 years of confronting and arguing when he justifies looking at it ------ I just simply do not care any longer.

  Personally I have gone from a  having  several friends, a decent social life and a full life to Null.  Honestly,  think I have had my fill of him and all of his family too.  3 years has been enuff. No kids to tie us together, finiancial unstability (his) and too many other issues to list. Not really bad issues- Could be worse but why should I be the one to settle for a mediocre life?  

I just don't love him the same nor do I want to continue with this marriage.  I just want out.

I wish you the best in your decision of where you want to go from here.

 

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  Oct-3 8:12 am

It sounds like you've done alot to try and help and keep the marriage up. But it takes two and from what you describe, he sounds completely tuned out of real life.

Your kids will be better off seeing a happy mom, then one staying in a relationship that clearly isn't healthy.

And yes, there will be a man that will treat you better then that.

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  Oct-24 9:33 pm

I just wanted to say that your story and mine are remarkably similar.  I hope that we both find the answer to our troubles.  You are not alone.
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