My ex/babys father cheated on me when we first got together and i didn't find out until i found out i was pregnant. He is begging for me back he even got on his knees infront of me and begged for me not to leave him. We've been broke up for about 2 months. I'm now almost 4 months pregnant. I do still love him but i'm so scared that i'm goin to get hurt again but i do want him in the babys life. I'm so confused i just don't know what to do. Please please help me
Well like I have told a few people that are in the same position you may have to test him to find out if he wants to really be with you or if it is only because of the child. 2 of my friends told the guys that if they really want to be with her they would have to start their relationship ALL over from the beginning and absolutely no more cheating. Well 1 of the guys said he would do it, but then changed his mind 12 hrs later thinking she wass gonna give in. That friend though stood her ground and he is missing out. My other friend did start over with her man from the beginning and that included him not staying the night at all and she also made them go to counseling because she wanted to make sure he was serious about them. Well the good news is they are still back together and she was due 2 weeks after I was so they have been back together almost 2 years. He does not stay the night, but from how well things are going for them that might change and he has also not cheated on her again since then. If you want to talk or have any want any more ideas of what to do feel free to ask me. HTH
I was cheating on alot by my ex. He cheated on me for almost 4 years. So ya I understand were you are coming from. I tested my husband now in the beging to see if he would hit me or cheat on my like my ex. He passed of course. I would not do anything with him. We just kissed. I made him hold out for almost a year. Two months before we got married. So ya if a guy can hold out and is willing to do anything for you then it was meant to be. Alot of people don't think it works but it does. I have been threw so many bad relationships and I was going to put it to a stop so I did everything different. Even though you have already dated him you still can test him and start all over again. Another way of nowing if they really care is how they act without you in his life. If they really love you like they say then they won't run around sleeping with other woman. I am not saying a guy has to sit there and cry and don't go out. but they will not hurt anymore then they have already hurt you. You"ll have to determine how long you test him for, if you test him at all. I wish you all the luck in the world. I wish nothing but happieness. Hand in there. Big (((((HUGS))))).
