Not sure where to place this on which board I mean, I'm getting married and my future husband has a daughter in first grade from his first marriage, and I want to make the change for her as easy as possible on her. I know I can't replace her biological mom but, at same time I am going to be living with her and I feel responsible to take care of her. I just want this to be a good situation for her.
Welcome, Stephanie! I do not have any BTDT advice for you. Just be patient and let her know that you love and care for her. I did find some iVillage articles that might help! I hope to get to know you and your family better. http://parenting.ivillage.com/mom/structure/0,,42q0,00.html
Welcome to the board. I think the first thing you need to do is talk to your SO and ask him what he expects your role to be. Does his DD still see her mom? What is her relationship like with her dad? After you talk to your SO about what he expectations are, I would suggest having your SO talk to her about you moving in with them and getting married before it happens (if he hasn't already). Then, once that's done, I would suggest you and her sitting down and talking together about things.
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thanks I'm looking at one of the articles in your post right now, ton of great stuff there. I just don't want traumatize her anymore then she already has been. I can't believe what she been through in 6 years. Parents fighting, Parents divorcing, who knows the teasing she probably gone through in school as well. I just don't want to add to that you know.
Right! I totally understand. My oldest were young when their father and I divorced so luckily they don't remember the hard times. They were 7 and 9 when DH and I got married.
