Moms in School

its just another one of those days. My life is so sucking right now, I truly want to quit. I'm juggling so many things, I'm not sure I can keep this up. Right now, I'm going to school full time, working part time, taking another class 1 night a week, my mom is in the ICU, my family is in town, my xh is being stupid, my oldest ds is being stupid,  I have cats pottying all over my house, my car needs engine work and a midterm on monday. I'm gonna blow apart. On top of this, my honey is struggling in school, really, really not doing well at all, probably won't be able to complete his program, so I can't lean on him right now, but he keeps trying to help, which makes him do worse in school...

Right now, this is what my schedule looks like.

Mondays: class 930-1230, work 1230-230 and 530-8 and i have my kids on monday.

Tuesdays: class 1030-1230, work 130-230, my kids are gone to their dads tuesday evenings and I have to pick them up at 830 from the church that I'm not allowed in

Wednesday: class 1030-1230, work 1230-230 and 530-8, my kids are at their dads for the evening and I have to pick them up after work

Thursdays: at the hospital 10am until 5pm, class 6-9pm, and I have my kids

Fridays: work 930-1130 and my kids every other weekend.

So like today, I went straight from work to my parents house so my brother could work on my car. at 230, they sent me to the parts house. When I returned, bro complained that I didn't go to the right store (as if it matters). So, I left. now, I have a crappy running car and a part I don't know how to put in. I tried to get into the ICU to see my mom, who I haven't had time to see since Tuesday. I couldn't get in before I had to leave again to get my kids after school. Oh, but tonight, my kids go to their dads, so I only have to be here for about 20 minutes, between the time they get home and when they go to dads. an utter waste of my entire day.

Yesterday wasn't any better. I had an earlier clinical time, so I got home around 330 and spent 2 hours on the phone fixing things with the bank because I some how paid my bills out of my xh's checking account, which doesn't have any money in it and I'm not a signer on. I actually had to go over to the bank to finally get it straightened out. When I got home, I found out that my boys didn't do their homework while I was on the phone, so I had about 20 minutes to do that before I had to leave for my class.

XH isn't getting the boys homework done while he has them, so that piles up on me, too. OMG, I'm gonna blow apart. I think it would just be better all the way around to just quit school and just quit. I can sell the house, rent something tiny and just quit. That is where I'm at right now. I honestly don't have time to do laundry, dishes, cook, clean, or heaven help me, even to poop. I've had a headache for 16 days straight now, so bad that I can't turn my head. My honey keeps telling me that I need to go to the doctor. When the heck am I supposed to do that??  Can I just scream now???

Wow - you do need to vent. I am so sorry for all of the stuff going on. Just try to not to make any decisions in the midst of your emotions. Only you can judge what is best for you.

I hope things start to improve.

Ann

I know how hard it is to manage school, work, family, and a sick parent. You sound completely overwhelmed today, and I don't blame you. After reading your post, I noticed a couple things:

1. Work. Based on what you posted (I could be wrong), it looks like you work about 12 hours a week. Would it be possible for you to give up those work house or cut them and live off of student loans, or would your SO be able to pitch in financially? Believe me, I completely understand if you can't - I know I have to work full-time in order to meet our expenses.

2. It sounds as if you rely on some type of child care the evenings you have your children and have class or work. Would they be able to help you more with some kid-oriented things, such as finishing homework.

I hope you're feeling a little better about things today and the stress eases soon.

I'm sorry its been so tough lately!

It always seems like everything happens at once.

Is it possible to cut back on hours temporarily? Either school or work? Sometimes just dropping one class makes a huge difference in work load.

Also, your kids are certainly old enough to do a lot around the house. No need for you to be so worried about dishes, laundry, etc. Mine kids do all that stuff and they are 11 and 8. I stared them on it over a year ago when dd was only 7 she was cleaning up after the pets, doing her own laundry, etc. In a family everyone needs to pitch in. I think for us that has taken the biggest load off overall when I got them involved.

None of us can really know how hectic things are or what you personally can handle, only you do. So only you know if taking a break right now is the best thing or not.

thanks for the support. Things aren't better, they are worse, but I passed my midterm.... That's the only good news....

As for my classes, can't drop any. the nursing program doesn't work that way, you take what they give you and that is that. The Thursday evening class only goes only for another 2 weeks. It's a relationship class, so I hate to blow it off.

For work, it's my work study, so I can't give it up. I ended up with dropped hours this week. I TA Mon and Wed and the teacher cancelled tonight and wed is a holiday. So right there, I'm down 5+ hours, and then I lose the 2 hours in the early afternoon on Wed, so I'm down a total of 7+ hours this week (@almost $15/hr! OUCH!) The upside to my work is that unless they have an assignment for me, my day time hours can be used to study, so that helps.

My honey doesn't live with me, he has his own place and his own set of bills. So that thought doesn't work, but it's a thought. If we shared a house, that would be different.

I'm working on getting my kids to pitch in more. My dd14 is really good about helping, but she has her own crazy schedule.... She's in high school this year, and was on the volleyball team (that added an interesting dimension to my schedule!) Now, she's managing the middle school wrestling team (so she can walk home after!)

As for the child care, the kids go to their dads Tues and Wed, so that takes them out of the house. xh doesn't get their homework done when he has them, and they sure as heck don't clean up their messes when they are there with him! LOL

Ah, so the added elements. My siblings went home, that leaves me here with my dad and my mom is still in the ICU and will be another week or more. And I learned that my dd was recently involved with an adult man, so ick and wow, this is gonna get messy.  and my xh is having eye surgery out of town and he wants me to go with him....

but I passed my midterm.....