Discipline Styles Debate

I'm knew to this board but have a quick questions regarding my 8 year old.  He has been having behavior issues at school so I've decided to take away TV, computer and Nintendo for 1 week.  However, my husband (not his dad) believes that he should have no privileges such as dessert, game time with the family, etc because he's on "restriction".  My question is, I took away the "electronics" not all "goodies".  Am I wrong to allow him dessert, and other privilieges.  Am I sending the wrong the message? 

Help!

Personally, I think it depends on the behavior.

For our son, if it's something minor, we'll take away screen time, but he can still play with toys or outside. If it's something major, we take away screen time, toys, going outside, and dessert...so basically all he can do is read (which he actually likes to do anyway).

It's about trying to balance the misbehavior with the consequences for us.

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I parent differently, as does my DH. 

We don't "punish" like normal people.

Things like tv, Wii, etc. are earned instead of a daily "right". 

It would GREATLY depend on what the behavioral issues are at school, why it is happening and why it isn't stopping.

Is he being disrespectful?  Is there a reason for it, even if it is one we don't understand?

Is he being a bully?

I would adress the what/why/how before I would "punish".

Removing his priveleges don't teach him what he is doing is wrong nor does it teach him how to do it.

 

He received two cards (which are given as demerits) at school for talking and then lied to me about a homework issue.  He has also been swearing. 

I stuggle with appropriate consequences and don't want to go crazy but he has ADHD (on meds) and needs to know that there are consequences.  I have attempted to come up with a plan where he gets rewarded TV time, etc for jobs well done but my husband doesn't believe this is a good idea.  Yes my son is 8 and you would think by now I would have some sort of idea how to discipline him but I was very lax in the past. 

Any further ideas would be greatly appreciated.