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Just wanted to share a picture of the "Miracle Pup" as he's been deemed by all the vets and shelter people that have assisted him in his life. My dear friends - thank you so much for helping me cope with the loss of my forever son Stuart Little. In his honor, I would like to introduce you to the baby Stuart led me to, my rescue pup Charger...

I think the pic gets bigger if you click on it. The 1st pic is the day I was led to him, the 2nd pic is right after he recovered from Parvo, and the 3rd is him sleeping on me this past week while I was sick.

-Tiffany Love

Current Proud Mom of : puppy Charger and kittens/cats Abra, Kadabra, Grizabella, and Gypsy

*FOREVER & ALWAYS a Proud Mom of precious ^Stuart Little^ : 12/26/1999 - 09/05/2009*

"If Love Could Have Saved You, You Would Have Lived Forever"


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  Nov-4 1:29 pm

What a sweet sweet boy he is. I am sure he knows his new mom is hurting.Tiffy even though your heart is broken I know this little guy can ease your pain,Stuart knew you needed help and he and God sent Charger to you. No pup can EVER make your heart feel the way Stuart made you feel but if you look at the last picture of Charger sleeping look at the smile on his face,he is so happy to have you as his mom. Let him in your heart Tiffy and let him and your other furbabies comfort you and ease your pain.

I am sure you don't feel this right now but Tiffy you are one strong,special woman,your heart is aching but you still put your pain aside and saved this little boy,that to me shows me what an amazing person you are. Charger and your other furbabies especially Stuart are so lucky to have you as their mom.

I had a thought and this is totally your decision but have you thought about talking to a minister or priest.Can't hurt since they work for God,they wont have all the answers but maybe talking to one of Gods workers can help with the pain your going through right now.

Your life right now is full of pain and darkness but Tiffy hold on to your faith and believe that one day the darkness and pain in your life right now will be replaced with sunlight and the knowledge that Stuart will never leave your side and the love you shared will never stop.

Hes so CUTE!!I know this is so hard for you,Thank you for sharing you new fur baby with us.

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                             Barkleysmom

My Sweet,Sweet boy,if Love could have saved you, you would have lived forever.

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A dog has no use for fancy cars, big homes, or designer clothes. A water log stick will do just fine. A dog doesn't care if your rich or poor, clever or dull, smart or dumb. Give him your heart and he'll give you his. How many people can you say that about? How many people can make you feel rare and pure and special? How many people can make you feel extraordinary? Photobucket    

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Barkley giving his mom kisses,this was the beginning of a 16year love affair.Thank you my sweet,sweet boy for allowing your mom to be by your side on your journey,it went way too fast and ended way too soon.Photobucket

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  Nov-4 2:42 pm

Barkley's mom - THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART! Your words were inspiring to me and made me feel that I am doing some good by helping this little guy out.

I have let him into my heart. I wasn't sure I wanted to at first. I knew immediately that I loved him - how could you not!? The 1st pic was the day I saw him...he was still in his shelter cage and I knew those eyes were so full of love and so gentle. Right after the pic I walked over to him and he placed his paw on my heart. He knew I needed him as much as he needed me. I had to get him out of there. I wasn't sure if I was going to keep him or if I was going to find a home, but I knew for darn sure that I wasn't going to let him be euthanized because "no one wanted him". I wanted him and I needed him. When he was diagnosed with Parvo, and after he had his 1st sub-q treatment, I remember he was laying in his bed under the coffee table (which he can no longer fit under) and I took his precious head in my hands and told him he was home and that his search for love had ended because he had found it. I told him all about Stuart and how I needed him to fight and beat this Parvo for me and he just stared back at me with those gentle eyes. He is very much in my heart. Not the same way Stuart was, but in a different way that is still so strong. All of them have been wonderful blessings to me. The thought of one day having to go through this again with any or all of them is too much for me to bear. If there's one thing I've learned from my Stuart's passing it's to not take anything for granted. I was always aware when Stuart was here that he wouldn't be here forever, so I was conscious in my many decisions on how I spent my time. If friends wanted to get together I had them over to my house the majority of the time so I wouldn't have to leave them etc. I have always held conversations with my pets and talk to them as humans. I still hold conversations with Stuart although his body is no longer in my sight. These animals bless me and make me who I am and I want to be with them as much as possible.

As far as the priest or minister goes, I have considered talking to them but have read that until I know their position it is best not to. Most Christian religions feel that animals do not have souls, and so I read to find out their beliefs before talking to them because you risk ultimately turning your back on that religion as a whole if they do not tell you something pleasing and easing to my heart. The book "Cold Noses at the Pearly Gates" has served as my religious guide. It is written by an avid scholar of the Bible who goes through scripture by scripture proving that they do have souls and that we will see them again. He also includes wonderful stories. As does The Rainbow Bridge: Pet Loss is Heaven's Gain, although I strongly disagree with that author's point of view on why pets become ill. She states it is the devil and only the devil that harms our pets. I prefer to believe (right or wrong is up to the individual to decide) that the devil had no reason to attack my precious baby and that what happened was God's plan being carried out.

The Soul of your Pet is the book I believe you recommended to me. I started it last night and just read a few of the stories but already am fond of what I've read.

I received a call back from my last resort "okay this is it - if this person doesn't get it I am giving up my search completely" grief counselor today. She is here in Norman and when she called me back I told her upfront that my loss was a different nature than she was used to dealing with, but that didn't mean it was any less important and real. I told her I had heard the awkward silences on the other end of the phone when I tell people it was my beloved dog and she immediately said, "Well that's not me. I have been there and know the pain." She also has 3 labs who sleep with her and her husband each night so she indeed is an animal person. Just through a quick phone call she made me feel validated in my feelings. I go see her next Wednesday evening at 5:45pm. I pray it is successful.

Thank you for your kind words about my newest addition! I knew I couldn't let our tradition of saving animals pass away with Stuart. He would want me to keep sharing my home, and that means the world to me because it shows how much he loved it there with us if he is willing to guide new babies my way.

You are an amazing person who has so much love in your heart and I thank you for sharing some of it with me. Barkley has to be so proud of him momma!

All my best, 

-Tiffany Love

Current Proud Mom of : puppy Charger and kittens/cats Abra, Kadabra, Grizabella, and Gypsy

*FOREVER & ALWAYS a Proud Mom of precious ^Stuart Little^ : 12/26/1999 - 09/05/2009*

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  Nov-4 4:44 pm

I am so glad you finally got your call back from someone who "gets" it. She sounds like she knows just how your are feeling.

I don't know how anyone who has looked into the loving eyes of one of Gods creatures can ever think animals of all kinds don't have souls. I feel sorry for any person or religion who thinks that way. All they have to do is sit down and open the Bible and read and there in the bible God talkes about his creatures.

You know you have been asking why you have not gotten your sign from your baby Stuart,even though I think he did have an angel make that phone call to you on Halloween but after reading your words I said out loud Tiffy you had a sign before.

When you went to see Charger for the very first time and he put his paw on your heart,,that was the first time you saw the angel Stuart sent to help you and when he put his paw on your heart to me that was Stuart letting you know he was with this pup and both of them ,one here on earth and Stuart in heaven were going to help you.

Paw to heart,yep that was a sign. NO one on this earth will ever make you feel the way Stuart did, but now you have Charger and your other furbabies and together with the help of Stuart and God you WILL get through this, you will never fully get over this but you will get through it.

Look into their eyes and NEVER EVER doubt that Gods creation and Gods creatures don't have souls. Their souls hold more love then alot of human souls ever will.

Have a good night and kiss your fur babies when you get home.

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                             Barkleysmom

My Sweet,Sweet boy,if Love could have saved you, you would have lived forever.

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A dog has no use for fancy cars, big homes, or designer clothes. A water log stick will do just fine. A dog doesn't care if your rich or poor, clever or dull, smart or dumb. Give him your heart and he'll give you his. How many people can you say that about? How many people can make you feel rare and pure and special? How many people can make you feel extraordinary? Photobucket    

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Barkley giving his mom kisses,this was the beginning of a 16year love affair.Thank you my sweet,sweet boy for allowing your mom to be by your side on your journey,it went way too fast and ended way too soon.Photobucket

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Oh my gosh..... look at that beautiful little "miracle pup"!!!!  Ha, and we know where miracles come from.... yeppers, Heaven!  So I just know ^Stuart^ had a big paw (and wing) in guiding you two together.  Well done ^Stuart^!  Little Charger just looks so sweet... he  knows he's found his forever Mom.  {{{hugs}}}

Oh Tiffy, I'm so glad you found someone who "get's it".  (few and far between, eh?)  Sheesh.... I've become such a true believe in animal lovers, I won't even see a doctor or dentist that doesn't have a furkid.  (that's the first question I ask!)  If they don't have the capacity to love a furchild... then there's something wrong with their heart - and I want nothing to do with them!  Ha!  :)

Please give Charger a HUGE extra snuggle from all his new Aunties.  :)

 

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  , ^Whisper^ & ^Wonder's^ Mom

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