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We made a horible tough decision

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  3/28/2005 1:03 pm

Yesterday we had to give our two huskies to the no kill humane society. This was such a painful decision to make. And I feel so very guilty. Our reason was the fact that yesterday the dogs killed my beloved cat Timmy. Timmy snuck out of the house and jumped the fence to the backyard. I have two more cats, I need to protect them as I falied Timmy. I am devestaed by the loss of my beautiful Timmy and for having to give up the huskes, Bee and Em.

We only had Bee and Em for two months. We adopted them from an old sled dog musher who said if the couldn't find homes for them, he was going to have the put down. I couldn't stand the thought of not helping. We brought them home and I fell in love immediately. 3 days laters Em gave birth. We didn't know she was pregnant. Emm was a great mom and took excellent care of her puppies. We just recently started to find homes for them.
I really loved Bee and Em and we gave them up yesterday. I couldn't trust them anymore, not after what happened to Timmy. But I feel like such a horrible person. I have never once given up a pet. I have always rescued them. I can't stop crying over the loss of Timmy and the loss of Bee and Em.

In my heart, I know that givig them up was the right thing to do. But it hurts so much. And I know the humane society will find good homes for them. But I feel so bad, like I have betrayed them.

We have decide to keep two of Em's puppies. We are going to hopefully train them to be nice to the cats. But they will never ever be left alone with the cats and I am now going to be a bit pshycho about making sure the cats don't go outside.

I can't stop crying. I am so very sorry Em and Bee.

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We made a horible tough decision

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  3/28/2005 7:49 pm

Let me start off by saying how very sorry I am for your loss of Timmy (((gentle hugs))). You must be devastated, but what happened is by no means your fault. Siberian Huskies do have a high prey drive and the fact that Em had just recently had pups, made her even that more protective. Please keep in mind that since Huskies have that natural prey drive, you will not be able to 'train' it out of the pups, but you should be able to redirect it. I am sure that both Em and Bee will find a terrific new family through the no-kill shelter. We are here for you if you need to talk or vent. Please accept my deepest sympathy on your loss (((hugs))).



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We made a horible tough decision

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  3/28/2005 9:59 pm

I too am very sorry. Losing your beloved cat in such a way must be so very hard. Please don't feel bad for giving up your two dogs, you did what you had to do and I know they will find a good home. Take it easy. Be gentle with yourself.

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  3/30/2005 8:31 pm

Everyone, thank you for your kinds words and support. Each day I feel a little bit stronger.

I still for so very guilty for giving up Em and Bee but in my heart, I know we did the right thing. I just haven't been able to let go of the feeling that I let them down. I loved them so very much. But we have two other cats and I just could not risk another accident. My heart couldn't take it. I do have faith in the shelter we took them to. It is a good shelter and I know they will take good care of Em and Bee and that they will find them good homes. And they were such active dogs and I really couldn't give them all the attention they deserved. I know we did the right thing so why does it hurt so much?

Everytime I think of them, I cry. Not because of what happened to Timmy (although I cry and miss him so very much) but because I feel so bad for letting them go. And I do miss them.

Again, thank you for your support.

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