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How do you define "virgin"?

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  Nov-5 9:55 pm

I am 22, a virgin, and consciously saving it for marriage, even thought it is REALLY hard sometimes. I've had fingering (vaginal and anal), oral, and I've been in situations where his penis was touching my vagina, or where we were sort of "humping" each other, but I've never had actual vaginal penetration.

Would you still consider this as "virgin"?

If you are a virgin, how far have you gone sexually?
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  Nov-6 4:27 pm

Well if you truly want to remain a virgin, you certainly aren't going about it the right way.  Split second slip and you won't be one anymore.
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I would not consider that being a virgin. Really it depends on what information you're trying to relay when you talk about virginity. You can't say you're innocent sexually, or that you've never been exposed to diseases, or that you've never taken a risk regarding getting pregnant. If his penis is touching your vagina, all it takes is a little pre-ejaculatory fluid dripping on you and there is a chance you can end up pregnant.
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  Nov-6 7:45 pm

Hi there,

I would say that the definition is in he eye of the beholder. Its very much dependent on the reasons you are holding out on vaginal/penetrative sex,

Technically one is a virgin if they have not had penetrative sex.....so going with this definition ,you are a virgin.

In my books, i personally think its a little hypocritical to be doing all the rest if indeed you are proclaiming to be "pure" and "chaste" for religious and moral virtues.

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I agree, it is hypocritical. I just want to hang on to SOMETHING I can offer to the guy I eventually marry, and it seems like actual intercourse is kind of a step above all of the other stuff, which is why I'm holding out on it.
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