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My bf and I have been together for 3 months. We started having sex after about 3 weeks. Ever since then, not a night has gone by that we have not had sex. I noticed in the beginning that it sometimes it took him a little while to orgasm. Now, in the past 3 weeks, there has been 3 occasions when we have sex for over an hour, and he still can't "go". When he does, it takes him forever! I am starting to wonder if it is something to do with me or if maybe I just don't do it for him anymore. I asked him, and of course, he said that it has always taken him that long and that it is definitely not me. He says that if it were me, that he wouldn't even have the ability to "get hard". But would he honestly tell me if it was? What should I do here? I feel like my bf isn't into me as much anymore....
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Some questions:

How old is he?
Does he seem to be enjoying himself otherwise?
Did anything else change three weeks ago? Say, did you switch birth control methods?
Do you have any other reason to think he might be losing interest?

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He is only 26. I haven't switched birth control meds since 5 months ago...2 months before we met. I think he enjoys himself otherwise. He did always used to talk about how much he was enjoying it, but doesn't as much anymore. He hasn't talked about how much he is enjoying in at all in the past week. Any advice?
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Hi there,

I would suggest you probably stop overthinking it.

Perhaps try and get out of a routine a little....maybe the sheer fact that it is ready and available for him every night is what is taking the potency out o his oomph...

In my opinion he is perhaps getting very used to the sensations...moves, thrusts etc and thus perhaps he needs a little more touch stimulation or  a physical point of difference to get over the line. It could also be a matter of him being tired, fatigued, exhausted given the everyday sex routine.

 

 

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I'm going to take a stab in the dark and say that he doesn't actually want sex every night and is only having it because the sexual relationship is new and fresh. If he had a choice, or rather his body had a choice, he would be happy with sex 4-5 times a week (perhaps less).

I think what you're seeing is that his body just can't cum or orgasm because he's been orgasming every night and his body just wants a break. Yes, you're sexy; Yes, he's enjoying the sex; Yes, you arouse him, but his body just can't quite get there and cum some nights....

Usually in a new relationship the sex starts with a hiss and a roar. You have lots of it all the time. After a while (which varies from couple to couple) the frequency reduces. You don't do it as much. Going well, you both have similar libidos and you both have sex often enough to keep the two of you happy but not so often you're getting worn out all the time.

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