Sorry for taking so long for getting back to reading replies. I tried to continue marriage, but I just could not stop thinking about cuddling, kissing, holding hands, and connecting with a woman.
jessy_ree, Thanks for your comments (cut and pasted it in quotes)
"after a while he came around and said his only concern was for my happiness.He had a hard time understanding at first that there is just something I can get from women that I dont get from men.The emotional closeness and ablility to relate to women...Give it some time and try discussing it with him again, he may change his way of thinking and in the meantime keep reassuring him that you love him as he may be feeling insecure himself.I hope you find the answers youre looking for."
I wish things would be like this for me, makes me sad when I heard other people's success stories. It was about a year and half ago I came out to him with these feelings. I figured at first it was all just sexual and and it would be strictly physical, until I found myself with more than just that and it was something that like you said I couldn't get from men. He just says to me that it's not okay to have relationships with other people, it has nothing to do with me being lesbian, that it hurts him if I have relationships with other people, that I'm selfish, etc, etc. There is no explaining to him that I love him and want a future with him(when I say that he just gets angrier saying that if I love him I would not be doing this to him).
I can sit around all day and try to explain what a woman gives that a man can't, but he won't hear any of it. He just says there is nothing wrong with being lesbian but I shouldn't put it before our marriage. I don't quite get that, so I'm suppose to deny myself what my own feelings are? I'm not blaming him for wanting just a wife to be his wife, without anyone else in the picture. What hurts the most though is how I feel like I am a horrible person. We planned a future together , him and I for many years. None of that will happen anymore. He just says I chose this for myself, and yes in a way it is a choice, but I didn't chose to be a lesbian. I sometimes feel more lesbian than I do bi, but I am attracted to men physically.
My husband was the only man in my life that I ever felt I could talk to or become close friends with. I never had any other male friends. I never felt comfortable really talking with men. Now that I know I like being with females sexually, it just feels more complete for me. If I were to date a woman, I wouldn't want to look for a man, but if I dated a man I would tell him I will be dating women. I'll probably just stick with girls though, I do not want to break another man's heart.
I absolutely feel like the most horrible person on the planet. I have lost my friendship that I had with my husband who wants nothing to do with me anymore. I'll miss the friendship we had the most. It kills because we live in the same house and I have to see him everyday, but not be able to talk to him or touch him.
He doesn't understand at all. He just thinks this is what I wanted so he thinks I'm happy about it even though I cry all the time. I'm not going to be happy about losing my husband, but I can't live the rest of my life as a straight woman either. I love him, but I can't stay married.
I also can't come out to anyone. My best friend and one of my other friends knows that I am this way. My best friend said I have to pick one - either stay married without being with women, or leave him because it won't work to have both. She's right. I can't have both. I want to find a special woman for me and start to build another life with her. I can't come out to my parents either - I'm planning to move into their house (yuck, hate moving back) who ask 20 questions about why am I separating from my husband and I just can't tell them. Some of my other friends are bit homo-phobic. My friends who do know do not understand, so I do not really have anyone to talk to about this besides you strangers on this message board. I feel so alone like I am the only person to go through this.
Love 
