Bisexuality

I'm female and I am attracted to one of my female friends. But she is straight! However she's one of those girls who when she gets drunk will dance with me (and her sister) so it's such a tease to me. I just wanna grab her and make out with her but she's completely straight. She only dances like that when she's wasted. But it's so darn annoying.

I just kinda wish if you don't like girls don't dance like that!!!

Why should she not dance with the girls just because she's straight?  She has just as much right to dance as you do.  She's not responsible for how you feel so if it annoys you then you can choose not to dance with her.

Lol, I'm in college so obviously my female friends and I go out together. Most of them I am not attracted to and see them just as friends (although they are very pretty, I'm just not attracted). But several of them are very attractive and overtly sexual. (Esp when there is alcohol involved lol).

I have a blast with this one girl (who happens to be one of the attractive ones...) and she does the same thing as your friend. But she is completely straight as well. Which, yes, is frustrating but I always have to remind myself that she doesn't know how I feel and she's just having fun with someone she sees as a friend.

Although I have this problem with this girl, the biggest issue is with my roommate. We didn't know each other previously to being roomed together. The first few weeks we got along and all, but then... So, there was a school overnight event after the first few weeks of school and (since we both didn't really know other people) we stuck together for most of the weekend (including the 2 dances they had). We ended up dancing together, rooming together, and talking a lot. Since then, we've been hanging out A LOT. Obviously, since we room together, we see each other all the time. But we (mutually) make plans to go out and do things - have dinner, go dancing, she'll take me out with her friends (and vice versa, so her friends have come to know me and mine know her quite well), we go to plays/performances/concerts, (I could go on and on, but you get the idea). If we get txts from each other about something, we both have changed plans with other friends in order to hang out with each other alone. We'll sit in the room and talk/laugh for hours straight (occasionally we've even lost track of time to the point of missing a class lol).

And now my purely physical attraction for her has developed into something more. But she's a straight, good Catholic girl who (I dont think...) would ever do anything sexual with a girl, besides the times she's tipsy or just being silly. So, Yes, straight girls can be VERY frustrating! But it's not their fault! lol. -Esp. if they don't know about your orientation (which idk if your friend does or not... I'm just saying that this could be why she's so "free" around you.) 

 

Hi and welcome!

I know it can be frustrating when you are bi, and more frustrating when you are getting mixed signals from someone you are attracted to.  Have you approached the subject with her?  Do you know that she is strictly straight?

As for the dancing...I see it this way...you can dance with her and get a cheap thrill and chalk it up to that or not dance with her at all and sit on the sidelines and watch.  That's the easy part.  ; )