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Bi sexually curious male

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  johnsellers
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  Nov-4 8:58 am

 

Hello, my name is John. I am really seeking some advise. I am a male and am married to a wonderful woman. I have been living with the urge to seek out my curiosity to bi sexuality. I know that most everyone reading this post will be female. Maybe, you or someone you known has had to deal with a male in my position.  I have known that I might have this interest ever since I was very young. Although, I have always and still now more attracted to women. As the years go on ( I am 36 years old ) have felt an attraction for men get stronger and stronger.

I probably should mention that I have always been a little gender confused. I have always related to the female side. I even have dressed and gone out as a female. This part of me is not a fetish. I truly feel my self when dressed as a female. I only get to do that maybe a couple times a month. Even with all of these gender questions I have had, I never was really into men. But now, it is becoming more of a reality to me. I want more than ever to feel what it be like to be with a male sexually. I have really never hung out in gay clubs and am not sure I would feel real comfortable with that.

If anyone has had to go through what I have or maybe has a spouse that has had the same feelings. Please give some advise?

Thank you very much!

Confused Jon
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Bi sexually curious male

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  Nov-4 11:57 am

Hi John, your in a touch situation. If you come forward with your desires and interests you can risk ruining your marriage or greatly damage emotional relations between you and your wife. I believe that once married you join as one and must be upfront about these kinda things. This seems like an issue that you should of thought about before marriage. My best advice would be to seek out therapy and even a sex therapist to get a better sense of how do deal with such urges. You might get a better sense of things. I know of a couple guys who had bi curiosity as well...just know as i said that opening this up can lead to huge issues with the wife. Seems like a girl on girl is much more comon and accepted then guy on guy
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Bi sexually curious male

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  Nov-4 4:36 pm

John

Another question you need to ponder is how do you think your SO would react? Some of the women who have posted here have posted that they would embrace their SO's bisexuality. At the same time other men on this board have commented that their SO's would blow a gasket. If your SO is open, you could potentially share this experience together. If not than you have to decide if you will maintain this as a fantasy only. Some people clearly admire people other than their SOs but honor their commitment by not acting on the desire.

There are things I would love to try but can not because it would violate my commitment. As such I keep these fantasies to my self.

Dirty
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  Nov-4 6:49 pm

Hi I have some questions. Does your So know about the crossdressing? If so what was her reaction? If positive how does she feel about a MMF threesome? Have you spoken about your wish to explore this aspect of yourself?
Have you ever been with a man sexually? A dream is very different than reality. When you cross dress ins that in public or in public in a different locale? Are you near a city that has a gay area?
These are things to know before embarking on a change that may be profound!!
xve
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  Nov-6 10:31 am

Thank you for all the great responses. To answer a few questions. Yes, my wife knows about the dressing. Although, she has not shown a great interest in being a part of that side of me. She is very acceptable and gives me the time that I need for that side of me.

Also, we both had a fantasy of being with the same sex. We would use this talk and fantasy for fore play many times as we were in our early stages of relationship. The problem for me is the wife got to live out her fantasy three times. While this was a great experience for both of us. She got her fill of it and is no longer interested for her or me.
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