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My letter to him.

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  Sep-3 9:53 pm

I was going to follow the advice on the link.  To write this out, then burn it...or tear it up...but NOT sent it to him. 

 I decided that rather then destroy it, I needed to make this real.  So I am posting it here...in plain sight! 

Once I post it on this board I am accountable --No turning back, no changing my mind!

You will never love me. Never.

You will never look at me with love in your eyes.

No matter how much I beg.

No matter how often I kiss your back…or give you amazing sex.

You will never love me.

 

In my mind I have had a million conversations with you.

Going over your excuses and reasons over and over again.

I have picked ‘us’ apart in so many ways.

I have an solution for every reason we should not be together.

We are so perfect, Don’t you see this?

There are so many indicators that tell me this is over.

But I still have these conversations in my mind.

 

If I could make you want me--I would

I would make you laugh all the time.

I would do anything for you.

But you will never love me.

 

Nothing I ‘do’ will ever make you love me.

 

I forget sometimes…that we broke up.

And it hurts all over again.

You are still so real to me.

You were suppose to go to the race with me next week.

I can’t seem to convince myself that you won’t be there.

 

I truly thought you were ‘the one’

I did! It was so perfectly good…until it simply wasn’t anymore.

I can try to tell you how perfect I am for you.

Give you a list of reasons.

I can try to tell you how perfect you are for me.

 

But the cold hard truth is this:

You do not love me.

You do not want a future with me.

No matter how it is said. This is the reality of it.

 

I cannot lie to myself anymore.

I cannot pretend that I don’t see the truth right in front of me!

I cannot sit by the phone waiting for you to call.

 

All of the good things that I had with you.

I wonder if I will ever experience them again?

I cannot convince myself that they do exist apart from you.

Because I have never met anyone like you before.

 

 

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http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=27414.1&ctx=0

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  Sep-3 10:46 pm

That is beautiful and so profound.
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  Sep-4 12:28 pm

Thank You. 

Sadkitty70 said this on my other post--If someone doesn't want me in their life, I don't want them in mine either.

I got up twice last night to re-read my posted letter.  I keep saying to myself

 --This man will never love me, that makes everything else un-important.--

I think it helped calm me down a little.  Kinda like just accepting my lack of control...does that make sense?

I have no plans to send this letter.  As for him reading it online?  Not likely.  He doesn't even know Ivillage exist, let alone what my screen name is or anything else.    The couple times I used his computer I never visited the site, nor did I ever really talk about it.

 

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  Sep-4 10:08 pm

Kinda like just accepting my lack of control...does that make sense?

Agree completely with your thoughts. When we learn that no matter how many times we call, beg or cry, we cannot change their minds if that is not what they want. The only control we have on over ourselves and to stop the torment of wanting that someone who couldnt give a toss anyway. Easier said than done, but accepting that sad simple truth is always the first step to begin to heal and move on.

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  Sep-14 11:37 pm

I really loved that
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