Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

I haven't been on this board in about two months. But, ladies, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do yourself a favor and don't contact him. Let your ex got into that nice, neat folder that Carrie B. refers to as the "Ex Files." It is so not worth it, to contact him, have sex or even befriend an ex...

After not speaking to my ex-fiance/LIB, I met a nice new guy and who I've began dating, and things between us moved pretty quickly and I am comfortable with it. This development led me to believe that I was so over my ex and since we'd been friends for close to 8 years that I could comfortably online chat with my ex, occassionally see him or text. BIG MISTAKE. He is now a p#$$% hound on the prowl wanting to school me on how guys think about women, how he views his new conquests and the likes. I had not shared much details on my new relationship until his visit to my home and he noticed things there that I normally wouldn't buy. So, I didn't see a point in lying and told him. However, since we've been "friends" and "cool" he has been sharing all of this misogynistic comments about women and his pain from our dis-engagment. Although, he broke up with me!!! Anyhoo, my point is I don't want to expose myself to hearing his stories anymore! Not, because I want to get back with him, but more so because I cannot believe that the man I thought I would marry is such an immature effing idiot!

So, I'm back to this support page and kicking it off yet again with no contact. And, this time...as far as he is concerned I dropped off the earth!

Hi, I know what you mean I contacted my Ex and it was a disaster! I posted it on one of the message boards. I won't make that mistake again. I also am married and don't think that I will have another Ex to cross off my contact list anytime in the near future LOL! You go girl and stick to your guns! Why is it that men can irritate the hell out of us but we still continue to love them is beyond me! It sounds like you are really upset and you have every right to be. But I think what infuriates you so much is that you do love him even though you do think he is a jerk. I wish you all the best of luck getting over this guy and moving on with your life.Take care

Yea, its really hard to not be in communication with him since he was my best friend. Art4sol, I read your post about your first love and I completely know where you are coming from. This current EX and i were engaged to be married, just a few months ago. However, I should have seen it coming that we wouldn't make it because during our 5 year relationship, he continued to break up with me, and had so many hang ups that a union was nearly impossible. He wasn't my first love, which in hindsight, I think made him insecure about our relationship, but I definetely loved him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Since I made this post I found out all of the lies that he spread about me which infuriates me even more. There are days when I feel really good about us not being together and then there are days when I really miss him. But given our history and the reality that we just aren't meant to be - I'm resolving myself to make a critical change and never, ever allow myself to be available to him again...My emotions are so all over the place that I'm considering breaking up with my current, new guy. I used to believe there was a great strength in my ability to try to be the mature adult and remain friends, or at least friendly with an EX, but now, I believe its best to move on and let your ex KICK ROCKS!!! haha...

Thank you all for your words...